Toxic people suck. There I said it. I mean, not being judgmental or anything as we all know this is always a judgement free zone, but let’s be real here, toxic people suck. I don’t just mean they suck as in they are horrible yucky people (wait, was that judgmental?).
I mean they suck…the life out of us. Am I right? Don’t you ever feel like your heart and soul was just violently ripped out of your body after spending any time with a toxic person? Ok so maybe that’s a tad dramatic but you know what I mean.
You’re drained, you’re empty, you’re a shell of a person. Empty and exhausted.
You know, I get that it’s impossible to stay away from toxic people altogether. I mean, some of us actually have to live with toxic people (sorry for you, really I am). That’s a nightmare all in its own and I ain’t no family or marriage counsellor for the sake of this blog, we’re not talking about those toxic people.
With that said, however, you can most certainly try one of these methods and see what happens.
Alright so how do we deal with them effectively short of stabbing them in the eye? Here are 3 sure fire ways that, if you haven’t already, you should give a whirl.
Topic Change Please.
Flat out, as soon as they start their bullshit, kindly suggest a topic change. Politely (yes we are being kind and polite) tell them you don’t really like it when they start spewing venom like the Spawn of Satan (wait, isn’t that polite?) and if they are going to continue to talk like that, then you will just leave the room. Be firm, gentle, kind and confident.
Obviously, one of two things is gonna happen.
1) They will stop or 2) they will tell you if you don’t like it, then leave.
Which brings us to point 2.
Yup, plain and simple, just walk away. No yelling, fighting or screaming or anything crazy like that. Smile and walk away. Remember, you always have choices in life, no matter where you are or what you are doing. If you don’t like the way someone is acting or talking to you, you have the choice to leave, walk away. Yup, you do.
If they don’t like it too bad. They obviously have no respect for you or any care or concern for your feelings. They don’t have the right to spew toxicity to you. Maybe one day they’ll get the hint.
You know, like a shield. Like the Power Rangers or whatever those action figures from the 80’s were called. Build an invisible shield around you and command it to protect your energy from the time vampires you have to deal with. You can make it any color and size you want.
Don’t think I’m crazy until you try this. Trust me on this one. When you protect yourself from toxicity, deliberately and consciously protect yourself, guess what happens? It literally repels. I’m not even kidding. You will barely feel a thing and your soul will remain intact.
Isn’t that great?
You know, in this big and beautiful world full of love and magic, there is also a wee bit of hate and anger. You don’t have to take part in the hate and anger. You can choose to infect it with love instead.
The more of us in the world that take the time to back away from the negativity and take part in and spread positivity, the better the world will be. All change starts with us.
Peace and Love