Ah, it’s holiday time. Yippee yahoo. For many, it’s fun and family and feasts. And then there’s the rest of us who have to go through the holidays alone. Some don’t mind it, some find it very difficult. My first Christmas alone, I had just moved to Guatemala and really had no friends. I definitely had no family here. Yup, I was alone, really. But I managed to get through the holidays alone. I did.
Then there are some who just lost loved ones. My heart goes out to all of you during this time. I can’t even pretend to know the grief you must go through. No matter what the situation or the reasons, there are still some of us who have to go through the holiday season alone. Some make it good, others struggle.
This year I am without family again, but two years in Guatemala and I now have some fantastic friends who I can call family. I’m blessed. I’m still alone Christmas morning, which has always been the most exciting day for me ever as a mom. So how do I manage to get through this? Here are my 5 tips. Hope they help you…
My favourite thing in the whole wide world to do!!! There are so many organizations and/or shelters that always need an extra pair of helping hands. Call one up and go help. You will not find more love and happy cheery faces than in a place like a shelter where they are all so happy to see volunteers. Trust me, you will feel loved! If you’re not so much into being with people, I’m sure the animal shelter regular staff/volunteers wouldn’t mind a break during the holidays.
You can even just walk up and down your main downtown area and find homeless people there who might want some company. Go grab a couple of coffees or hot chocolates and sit with one.
See? You don’t have to get through the holidays alone!
Now this may sound sort of ass backwards. I mean, we don’t want to be alone right? But hear me out on this one. Being alone and actually having a “me day” are two different things. Take the day to honour yourself. Buy yourself a present, fill your stocking if you want. Stay in your pj’s all day. Watch GoT all damn day. I mean, if you’re gonna be alone at least have some fun! Put on your favourite Christmas songs and sing at the top of your lungs. Don’t like Christmas songs? Fine then! Sing whatever the fuck you want but just have some fun!!
It’s just another day
Ok, it’s not, I get that. It’s a pretty darn special day actually. But we’re alone and everyone around us is celebrating and we’re not. It sucks, I so get that. My first Christmas alone, instead of moping around and feeling sorry for myself, I carried on my day like it was any other day. I slept in, had breakfast, worked, played music, went for a walk into town. Yup, to me, and in my mind, it was just another day. It lessened the sadness for me. Really it did.
Road trip anyone?
If you can and are able, get in the car and get the fuck outta town. Go on a road trip, go to another little town in your area, perhaps one you haven’t been to in a long time. Stop in a restaurant and have dinner and I bet you might make some new friends there! Or go to a quiet serene area, have a picnic and cry your eyes if you have to. Just leave town. You don’t have to leave the country. Even a short road trip is very therapeutic.
Nursing homes can be fun!
Do you know that there are many seniors in nursing homes who sit alone and actually have family but no one visits them? They only see staff day in and day out and they see their neighbours have visitors all the time. Go check in with your local nursing home and see who hasn’t had any visitors in forever. You may even get to hear some really super cool stories from the early 30’s. Oh!!
Honestly, there are so many other lonely people in the world who wish they had company, just like you. Many cities also have dinners for people who are single, alone or without family at local churches and halls and such. Go check one out. The possibilities are endless! Imagine the friendships that can be formed.
“Do you hear what I heeeeeeeeeeeear?”
Peace and Love