So I’ve been hearing this one thing a lot from readers and clients of mine who are trying to move on after their divorce or major event in their life. “It wasn’t supposed to be like this.” “We were supposed to grow old together.” “I was supposed to retire in a few years, but now
When anger problems show up out of the blue Hey, so does this ever happen to you? It may have been months since your divorce ended, or you broke up with your partner and you thought you were doing okay. You were sure you dealt with all the anger problems fresh from the divorce or
It happens all the time and you’re probably not even aware of it. Or you are aware of it, but you’ve just accepted it as a way of life. Being treated like a door mat. Your boss just *assumes* you’re going to work late…even though you already made plans. Your ex texts you, saying how
If you follow my blogs you know I’m a huge advocate for writing and journaling. I believe, truly believe, that healing from emotional pain does not come without forgiveness. In order to move past the hurt, we must forgive. Now many of us don’t want to forgive others or don’t believe the person who hurt
As the weather gets colder and the orange and yellow leaves start to fall from the trees, I’ve been thinking a lot about a growing trend in divorce. The ugly truth is that it is happening more and more often these days. The case of spouse abandonment, aka when you thought the marriage was fine
When you are recovering from divorce, dealing with loneliness is definitely an obstacle that keeps you from moving on. We get stuck in this mindset because it makes us feel like we have nobody in the world. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Take a look at the mindful strategies that can help
The reason we struggle with trust is because we feel like we’ve been betrayed. It’s a crappy weight to have on our shoulders. Similar to its other invasive cousins anger, guilt, and resentment, losing trust after your marriage is a major hurdle when it comes to getting your life back. We wonder if we will learn how
Somewhere in between that first phone call and our first kiss, it happened. The flood gates of simmering emotion I’d buried for almost two decades crashed though the stone walls of my heart. I never intended to fall deeply and madly in love with you, again. I never meant to pack my whole life and
Our hearts eat lies. They do. Too often we believe what people tell us just so we can feel love and that right there my friends is the major cause of a broken heart. Let’s discuss this more. So why do we torment ourselves like that? Why do we keep letting our hearts eat lies?
Your love was like looking in a mirror: My soul reflected back to me. Only, I didn’t realize it. That is why it hurt so badly when you didn’t look back. I never chased myself, so why would you? Loving you was work. When you disregarded my feelings it was just me overlooking myself. I
Iva Ursano is a retired hairstylist turned badass freelancer, who left behind 52 years of her life in Northern Ontario, Canada for a life of freedom, love and beauty in sunny Guatemala. She has two main purposes in life: feed hungry bellies and help inspire people to live a life of joy and love.
