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8 Confidence Boosting Tips Every Woman Needs to Read

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8 Confidence Boosting Tips For Women

As a woman, and also as a strong woman, sometimes my self esteem and self confidence slip. Even strong women have their bad days. We often need some confidence boosting but are too proud to reach out and get it.

I talked a bit about being a strong woman and having a bad day in my latest YouTube video. You can watch it here.

Can you kinda relate? That whole part about being strong yet sad and weak sometimes? I feel ya. But we’re so strong and silly sometimes. We don’t want to bother anyone with our problems, right?


I want to share 8 things with you now that I think you really need to read. And read them again and again if you have to. Share them with all your girlie peeps so they can build their confidence back up too!

So how can we boost our confidence fast?

There’s no easy or fast answer to this one. Sometimes it just takes time and it also mostly depends on what type of person you are and how well or fast you can make changes and pick your spirits up and boost your confidence.

Some days I find myself sitting at the computer doing this little confidence boosting exercise:

You got this, you can do this, you’re amazing, stay the course, look how awesome you are…

And some days this works, and some days it just doesn’t cut it. I think one of the fastest ways to boost your confidence is to stop and look around you and look how amazing you are, how strong you are, how far you’ve come, and all the amazing things in your life right now.

You didn’t get here by sheer luck. Remember that. It probably took perseverance, determination, and tons of hard work so YAY YOU!!!

8 Confidence Boosting Tips Every Woman Needs to Read

1 If you could see yourself through everyone else’s eyes…

You’d be astonished! Blown away even. People truly do admire you! They love the hell outta you!!

We are hard on ourselves and often think we are unworthy or not doing a great job or that we suck..whatever. You are the bomb. There is no one in the world like you!!

2 No one knows what they’re doing. We’re all just winging it.

Stop trying to pretend you got your stuff together to impress people. Take the mask off, slowly, gently, easy does it now..ah there, the real you. Why do we have to make people think we’re some kind of comic book hero that can leap tall buildings in a single bound bla bla bla…it makes you look ridiculous.

Be confident in who you are without having to try to impress people. 

Stop doing that. You don’t have your stuff together, no one does and that’s ok!!!

3 You don’t need anyone to make you happy.

Or anything or whatever. Having a new partner isn’t going to make you happy if you aren’t already happy with yourself. Until you can find some peace, love, and joy inside yourself you will never find it. You will continually attract the opposite.

Be happy with you first, and don’t need anyone to do that for you.

confidence boosting tips for women

4 Jealousy makes you ugly.

Ouch. That hurt didn’t it? I never truly thought this until someone pointed it out to me and then I experienced a jealous person and my first thought was “oh ya, that’s ugly”.

Jealousy is a negative emotion we feel towards another person because we don’t feel adequate with ourselves.

Keep this in mind, you are probably jealous of Susan because she seems sweet. Susan is probably jealous of you because you’re a bad***. See how what you are is enough? You’re welcome.

This truly should have been confidence boosting tip #1.

5 When someone says you’re beautiful, believe them.

Really. Believe them. Because you are beautiful. Not only that, but people also don’t just generally throw around compliments like confetti (though I wish they would) because for some of us, well, it’s just plain awkward.

Next time someone tells you that, smile confidently (oh I know that’s gonna be tough for some of you) and say thank you with a proud beaming confident smile, ’cause girl, you are freaking beautiful!!

6 Stop giving too much of yourself to the wrong people.

You know what I’m talking about here. You desperately want that person to like you, want you, love you but they don’t deserve you. You keep chasing people who keep running. If they wanted you they wouldn’t be running. As a matter of fact, they’d be chasing you.

If you’re looking for love and approval, look inside of you first.

7 Holding grudges also makes you ugly

Sorry, not sorry.

You ever waste time going on and on about the person who did you wrong and how you hate them and then spew off a ton of other negative ugly stuff?

You know what I’m talking about.

Confident people don’t give a sh*t about the toxic people from the past. They’ve moved on with their life and spent time improving their lives, boosting their self esteem, self respect and confidence, and let the past go.

Please do that too.

8 Do what makes YOU happy…

and to heck with the rest.

Ok, that may sound a little harsh but hear me out on this one. We spend SO much time making everyone happy all the time and the only person who truly deserves happiness, is you.

Yes your kids need to be happy as does your partner, but wait, what about you? I get there’s a small level of sacrifice here sometimes but only sometimes.

You don’t have to completely sacrifice your entire existence just to please everyone. Don’t you matter? Isn’t your own happiness important? Of course, it is!! You are worthy!!

confidant woman smiling

Some confidence building books for you!

I recently started a mini self help eBook series called You Are Amazing. I truly love writing these confidence boosting ebooks because they are quick little books to read with so much valuable information in them! You can check them out here:

How to Set Boundaries

How to Love Yourself

How to Face Fears

How to Cut Cords of Attachment

mini eBook self help series

Don’t forget to share these confidence boosting tips with your friends!!

And don’t forget who the eff you are!!!

You are so worthy and beautiful. You are a gift to this world. Every woman, every human being is a gift to this world. I get that too, as a woman, it’s hard for us to know our worth. We think we are only here to serve.

Actually, we are ALL here to serve. We all have a purpose.

It’s tough being a woman but it’s friggin awesome too!

We are goddesses and we are slaves. We are a lot of different things that society tells us we are. But as a woman of strength, you can’t ever forget who you are, how strong you are, and how amazing you are.

Yes, it’s tough to be a woman in this day and age but it’s also the most beautiful thing in the world. As long as you don’t forget your value, your worth and self respect/self love/self confidence and self esteem.

Wrapping this up, remember:

  • you deserve a life of love, joy, peace, and freedom
  • you are so effin beautiful it’s crazy
  • you are enough and no one is better than you
  • you have something someone else wants or admires in you
  • people smile when they think of you

“Mirror mirror on the wall…”…”Yes Iva, you are amazing!!”

Peace and Love


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Iva Ursano is a retired hairstylist turned badass freelancer, who left behind 52 years of her life in Northern Ontario, Canada for a life of freedom, love and beauty in sunny Guatemala. She has two main purposes in life: feed hungry bellies and help inspire people to live a life of joy and love.