You’ve heard this expression a million times. Follow your heart, it knows the way. I think this is probably one of my favourite quotes of all time. I am a firm believer in this. My heart does know the way. It has never steered me wrong yet.
Follow your heart
The argument I get from this one, constantly, is this: Well I did follow my heart and it ended up in relationship breakdown, job loss, or letting myself down in something that I desperately wanted to try but it didn’t work out the way I wanted it to.
I get all that. None of us are strangers to heart break or disappointments. It all sucks big time. I mean, when we get into a relationship, we don’t foresee the ending, we don’t even want to think about it. We want to think “oh this is the one, I feel it in my heart”.
Well of course you feel it in your heart. That’s love. That’s a true and beautiful feeling. But let’s face it, bad stuff happens, people change, people’s true colours come out after time, things just don’t always work out the way we “expect” them to.
See that word? Expect? We expect too much.
Expectation is the biggest cause of disappointment
We go into something with high hopes, which is totally natural and honestly there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s the expectations that are wrong. We need to learn to detach from expectations and just go in to something with love, joy, and remember to do our best and be our best and really just enjoy the moment, person, thing, relationship.
Of course, when we enter into a new relationship we have expectations that this is the one and don’t foresee any endings. Though, those aren’t really ridiculous expectations, they kinda are. You can’t expect anything, ever, to be perfect or perfect for you or even,permanent.
Nothing is permanent. Not even relationships. People change, people move on, people die. All unforeseen happenings.
When you release the expectation of perfection and permanence, you can then just enjoy the time, right now. Today.
Your heart knows.
I want you to think about your heart for a second here and go back to a time when you did follow your heart and how that felt. Was there joy? Elation? Excitement? Of course there was. That’s what your heart does. It gives you all those amazing feelings and then some. Isn’t the heart wonderful?
The heart wants to feel those things and it wants you to feel those things. If only for a moment, a day, a week, a year. It truly wants you to get as many as those feelings as you possibly can in a lifetime. It also wants you to let go of expectations and live in the present moment. In the now.
Your heart isn’t stupid. It knows that it has a fierce enemy. The brain. Oh this sly and manipulative dude goes up against the heart all the time. Your brain says things like this: “Don’t listen to heart, you’ll end up disappointment or heartbroken and we all know that sucks. Be smart. Get rid of this thought, idea or plan you have. Let me save you from sadness and failure”.
And you listen. And you don’t follow your heart. And you know what? You end up with regret and sadness anyway. Why? Because you didn’t listen to heart, you listened to brain. The joy and elation you could have felt was sacrificed for safety and protection.
But that’s not what we’re here for. I mean I get we have to be safe and cautious sometimes, only sometimes though. Don’t let this get in the way of your heart, happiness and life. Your heart knows what it feels. It also knows that no matter how big the hurt, disappointment or sadness is, the true emotions that are love, joy and crazy ridiculous happiness are the emotions that win all the time.
Those are the ones that put a smile on our face and keep a song in our heart, no matter what. Though we don’t forget all the emotions, even the crappy ones, the ones that are loved based are the ones that will always make you feel good.
And isn’t that what life is all about anyway? Feeling good, all the time, no matter what?
Follow your heart. It knows the way. And it really wants you to experience joy no matter what.
Peace and Love
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