Alone Doesn’t Mean Loneliness:10 Signs You’re Totally Happy With Solitude.

There comes a point in our 20’s when life warns us to stop thinking about ourselves and start contributing to society. We have to start working, paying taxes and maintaining relationships so we can populate the world. Though working and taxes are inevitable (sneakers and coffee don’t pay for themselves), do we have to be in relationships? Getting into our 30’s, 40’s and so on, we find more peace in solitude and rarely does loneliness set in.

Being in a relationship, particularly marriage, is an important milestone we’re all taught to desire. Your life isn’t complete unless you’ve found the love of your life (or, at least, your life right now). It’s something we can’t escape; we see it on the streets, in films and online, where engagement posts constantly appear on your Facebook News Feed.

It’s not loneliness

However, there are a select few who don’t feel relationships are the top priority. It’s not that they’re shy, introverted or unable to get or maintain relationships; they just prefer doing things on their own.Their focus is satisfying their needs, and their needs only. It doesn’t mean they are lonely, nor do they feel loneliness, they are perfectly content!

This can even transcend to their friendships and family relationships. These independent people aren’t complete loners or socially inept. In fact, most of them are probably the most charismatic and extroverted when they need to be. They just know their social limits.

Being independent isn’t something we should shame. If you prefer enjoying a coffee alone rather than with friends, that’s completely fine.

If you’d rather share your double bed with yourself rather than another person, that’s your choice. If you just want your space, it is your space. Some people just don’t need people, and that is okay. They just love that solo lifestyle.

Here are 10 signs you prefer riding solo and it’s not loneliness:

1. You love free weekends

Your type of weekend is one that involves no plans, responsibilities or socializing.

You’d rather stay at home alone with your favorites — Netflix, Chinese takeout and sweatpants — than go out on a Saturday night with cover charges, drunken people and clothes that are far too fitted.

2. You’ll go to the movies on your own

You don’t feel the need to coerce your friends to watch the latest Oscar film or 80s TV series turned movie reboot. If you want to see a movie, you’ll see the movie, friends or not.

Especially if you’re the kind of person who likes to stay updated with the latest films. Plus, you’re guaranteed to have all the popcorn to yourself.

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10 signs you’re happy with solitude

3. You’re comfortable with going to restaurants by yourself

Going out to dinner with friends or significant others can be fun, but it can also be a nightmare (think allergies, forced conversations and splitting bills). Hence, why you’re a big fan of eating out alone.

You don’t have to cater to everyone’s needs, budgets or aesthetic preferences. Plus, you’re guaranteed all the food to yourself. Who even enjoys sharing food?

4. You prefer drinking on your own

Some think it’s sad if you consume alcohol alone. However, you think it’s the epitome of happiness. Just you, a bottle of wine and no expectations. Plus, you don’t have to worry about trying to get home because you’re already home.

5. You travel the world solo

The idea of discovering the world on your own doesn’t scare you — it exhilarates you. It allows you to go where you want, see what you want and do what you want, without the restriction of someone else’s itinerary.

Traveling on your own allows you to discover yourself without the distraction and pressure of another person’s presence.

It also allows you the opportunity to step out of your comfort zone and make new friends.

Traveling solo is fun, but traveling with strangers is even more fun because they don’t have preconceived judgments of you.

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10 signs you’re totally happy with solitude, it’s not loneliness

6. You hate sharing beds

Double beds are generally made for you to share with someone, but you prefer to starfish in the summer and wrap your body in a blanket burrito in the winter.

You have no interest in fighting over blankets during the night or waking up to another person’s bad breath.

7. You find driving alone calming

Nothing cures a bad day and dark thoughts better than a solo drive to the beach or on an open highway.

In a world of constant social interaction (online and offline), solo driving is your mechanism to escape the world for a brief moment.

Plus, you can turn on your music and change it whenever you want.

8. You neglect your phone, a lot

You don’t feel the need to constantly text friends or significant others for social interaction.

If anything, you probably hate receiving pointless calls and text messages. Sometimes, you forget to check your phone or reply to messages.

9. You can be socially MIA for long periods of time

Sometimes your friends or family won’t see you for days, weeks or even months. They aren’t worried about whether you’ve died because you’ve updated on social media at least once. They just know that you just have your socializing limits.

You don’t feel the need to socialize every waking moment. Though you’re capable of enjoying a night out with friends, you’d prefer just doing your own thing, whether it’s a new project or reading a classic.

10. You see “clingy” as an unattractive trait

The idea of being unable to get out of a commitment scares you, whether it’s committing to having dinner with friends, being in a relationship, or even your mobile-phone contract.

You need that space to be alone, physically and mentally. You can’t stand someone who constantly wants to be attached, especially to you.

Even when you’re in a relationship, you need that alone time to gain your sanity. Someone who requires your undivided attention is an automatic deal-breaker.

No matter how demanding work, family, friends and relationships can get, you always need that time to step away from it all and have that space to yourself.

Your moments and thoughts alone are the only things society can’t control. Your decisions are wholeheartedly your decisions, and you love that.

By John Warwick

Source:Elite Daily via Idealist Revolution

This article was originally titled Alone Isn’t Lonely:10 Signs You’re Perfectly Happy With Solitude and published on Thinking Humanity. It is re-posted here under a Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License.

Research Shows Intelligent People Stay Up Late, Do More Drugs and Have More Sex!

What image do you have in your mind when thinking about intelligence? Most likely, you will imagine a student who spends a good portion of their time studying or a nerdy professor whose entire life is devoted to science.
However, recent research suggests that in reality intelligence has a very little to do with these stereotypes often perpetuated by the masses. In fact, three different studies show that intelligent people tend to stay up later, do more drugs and have more sex. Though it is not always the case, and correlation doesn’t always imply causation. Anywho, here are the studies:

1. Intelligent and Sleep

A study published in the journal Personality and Individual Differences analyzed over 20,000 people and concluded that individuals with higher IQ levels have different circadian rhythms, or sleep cycles, compared to people with an average intelligence. It’s worth noting that the study focused on both adults and children and showed the same result for both categories – it turns out that individuals with high IQs, regardless of the age, tend to sleep and wake up about half an hour later than those with lower IQ levels.

The link between intelligence and sleep cycles has to do with the hypothesis that smart people are more likely to adopt evolutionarily novel (i.e. new) behaviors than less intelligent individuals, and nocturnal activity is a perfect example of such behavior. Our early ancestors, most likely, were active during the day and slept during the night.

The paper also mentions an earlier study which suggests that intelligent people are more likely to be freethinkers with liberal and atheistic views.

2. Intelligent and Drugs

An even more surprising finding on intelligent people is the fact that they are more likely to experiment with drugs. According to a study conducted by the National Child Development, children with high IQs in the United Kingdom are more likely to consume psychoactive drugs in their adult years than those with lower IQs. At the same time, the background a person comes from, such as the social class at birth or parents’ education, doesn’t matter at all.

Moreover, it’s not the only study that came to the conclusion that smart people do more drugs. Thus, a study published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health revealed that people who achieved high scores in IQ tests as children were more likely to experiment with illegal substances as grown-ups.

Another study published in the Annals of Epidemiology also found that intelligent children tended to experiment with such drugs as cannabis, amphetamines, and magic mushrooms in their adulthood.

3. Intelligent and Sex

Another curious discovery about intelligent people comes from the UK, where researchers revealedthat young people who studied at universities like Oxford and Cambridge spent more money on sex toys than students at ‘lower-ranked’ universities. It’s needless to say how difficult is to get admitted to the world’s top universities, so it makes sense that most of their students are people of high intelligence.

How do the study authors explain this correlation between a higher intelligence and an increased sex drive? A possible explanation could be the fact that sex is a natural stress reliever, and the students take advantage of it to lower their stress levels, which go along with a high performance required at such prestigious institutions.

As you see, intelligent people turn out to have quite different habits and lifestyles from what we thought. Of course, the results of these studies don’t imply that all smart people are night owls who do drugs and use sex toys. But still, studies like these are interesting already because they break common stereotypes and give us the opportunity to look at things from a different perspective.

Why else do you think this is? Could it be that intelligent people tend to recognize the ills of society more so than their counterparts, and use sex and drugs as a coping mechanism? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below.

Source: The Mind Unleashed

This article was originally titled Research Reveals That Intelligent People Stay Up Later, Do More Drugs and Have More Sex and published on Thinking Humanity. It is re-posted here under a Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License.

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Keanu Reeves Shakes up the World With More Powerful Thoughts.

To say I’m a huge fan of Keanu Reeves would be slightly inaccurate but I do kinda like him. I’ve always found him to be so intense and serious, and a bit of an enigma to me. If you are a fan of his you may like his latest thoughts. Not to say I agree 100% with all of them, but some of them pack a powerful punch!!
Keanu Reeves has long been known to be a stellar actor, one who can play serious and hilarious roles. Something else he’s becoming known for is his wisdom. It’s not something you often find in celebrities.

Every few months, he gives the world the gift of his thoughts. And now I’ll leave you with them. Enjoy. I hope you take from it what I did.

Keanu Reeves powerful thoughts.

“I cannot be part of a world where men dress their wives as prostitutes by showing everything that should be cherished. Where there is no concept of honor and dignity, and one can only rely on those when they say “I promise” .

Where women do not want children, and men don’t want a family.

Where the suckers believe themselves to be successful behind the wheel of their fathers` cars, and a father who has a little bit of power is trying to prove to you that you’re a nobody.

Where people falsely declare that they believe in God with a shot of alcohol in their hand, and the lack of any understanding of their religion.

Where the concept of jealousy is considered shameful, and modesty is a disadvantage.

Where people forgot about love, but are simply looking for the best partner.

Where people repair every rustle of their car, not sparing any money or time, and themselves, they look so poor that only an expensive car can hide it.

Where the boys waste their parents money in nightclubs, aping under the primitive sounds, and girls fall in love with them for this.

Where men and women are no longer identifiable and where all this together is called freedom of choice, but for those who choose a different path-get branded as retarded despots.

I choose my path, but it’s a pity that I did not find similar understanding in the people among whom I wished to find it most of all … “

~ Keanu ReevesSource: Higher Perspective via Truth Inside Of You

This article was originally titled Keanu Reeves Shook the World With Another Powerful Message and published on Thinking Humanity. It is re-posted here under a Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License.

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If You Have Social Anxiety and/or a High IQ You Just May Have a Rare Psychic Gift.

Do you suffer from social anxiety or have a high IQ? You just may have a rare psychic gift. Read on to find out.

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Are sensitive, empathic, intelligent people, predisposed to social anxiety, and taking on the energy of others more prone to anxiety, drug and alcohol addictions, and mental health disorders, or do they bear a highly rare, psychic gift? The answer might be both.

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From recent scientific research, it turns out that the empathic, sensitive mind is more prone to mental health disorders because they are more in tune with what is going on around them. These people aren’t “crazy,” as many articles would like us to believe, but anxiously searching for an answer to subtle psychic cues they take in from their environment – sometimes around the clock, seven days a week.

Considering the many modes of mind control currently being used on the population to alter their emotional states – from Artificial Intelligence, to alien implants, and even military industrial experiments that have proven to interact with our nervous system and brain – is it any wonder that the highly empathic among us might be overwhelmed with emotional information coming in from those around them?

Scientists are even said to have discovered an on/off switch for our consciousness deep in the brain – which more than likely means we’re being controlled as never before. DARPA Is already challenging scientists to hook the human mind up to a super computer, presumably to be able to control us even more.

This constant mental processing of subtle emotional cues from others means that people with social anxiety are doing a lot more in their brains. They are more able to notice and interpret social cues from others, demonstrating a unique social-cognitive ability that only the truly empathic understand.

To further demonstrate this point, anxiety is the most commonly diagnosed “mental health problem” in the U.S. It affects more than 40 million adults, which means roughly 20% of the population lives with anxiety. Though anxiety can be absolutely crippling, and lead to much more severe depression as well as panic attacks, Western doctors are just starting to understand that some forms of anxiety may have been developed for a very good reason.

One research study out of Lakehead University discovered that people with anxiety scored higher on verbal intelligence tests. Another study conducted by the Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya in Israel found that people with anxiety were far better than other participants at maintaining laser-focus while overcoming a primary threat as they are being bombarded by numerous other smaller threats, thereby significantly increasing their chances of survival.

Researchers even called this combination of traits “sentinel intelligence” meaning that people with highly developed senses are able to perceive threats that are invisible to others.

Yet another study found that people with common, garden variety anxiety have higher IQs than people who don’t. Scientists who published their findings in the journal, Frontiers in Evolutionary Neuroscience, said that worry may actually have a positive component.

This doesn’t discount the fact that anxiety can be horrible to live with, and can actually lower our vibratory rate if left to run rampant, but it does indicate that a part of us – in many of us worrying empaths – is right about our gut feelings considering social situations and the manufactured emotions which are circulating through society right now.

Once we are aware that these feelings we are tuning into are real, we can more appropriately decipher and handle them.

Empaths are world-class nurturers, because they are psychically picking up on others’ deepest worries, fears, hurts and pain. Science is just now starting to understand this. Instead of shouldering civilization’s discontent, we can simply acknowledge it, understand more about what might be causing it, and choose to stay sovereign in our own emotional space.

All of us are growing toward this more “in-tune” ability, but psychic people (including empaths) generally notice that they’re different from other people in ways that they can’t quite define. These people are usually labeled Anomalously Sensitive People, but really they are just people where the right side of the brain is allowed to ‘speak’ as much or more than the left – and in the Westernized, work-a-day world we constantly push left-brained thinking. Furthermore, psychic people have more whole-brained wiring, meaning they use their entire brains more completely than those who haven’t yet realized their own psychic gifts.

And it isn’t just emotions the ‘anxious’ may be responding too. People with psychic sensibilities may have physiological sensitivities which include an over active immune system, psychogenic sensitivities, substance sensitivities and electro-magnetic radiation sensitivities.

Being an empathic, anxious person doesn’t mean you are crazy, but it does mean you are more prone to developing mental health challenges unless you learn to understand, accept, and support your psychic abilities. Feeling someone else’s emotions as though they were your own can be a gift, but only once you learn to siphon off the crud that the cabal-driven mental matrix has set up to enslave you.

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Source: The Mind Unleashed

This article was originally titled Do People With Social Anxiety and High IQ’s Have a Rare Psychic Gift? and published on Thinking Humanity. It is re-posted here under a Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License.

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