When Was Your Soul Born?

Oh how I LOVED this quiz. I’m all about finding out interesting things about myself, even my soul!! I believe that we had past lives and the souls we have today reflect who we were then. Though I’m not sure the two go hand in hand. Anyway, this quiz about my soul was awesome.

My soul.

Do you ever wonder how old your soul is or when it was even born? Do you wonder sometimes where your thoughts and ideas come from? How about the person you are and why you act and think the way you do sometimes! These are very thought provoking questions and I totally believe you will love this quiz.

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Someone told me that once that I am an old soul and I didn’t know what they meant or what on earth they were talking about. After going through this lovely test and answering these questions, I get it now.
Take the quiz and drop your comments below. I am curious to know what the other results were. According to this test, mine was born in the roaring 20’s! Weeeeee!!

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6 Major Causes of Jealousy and How to Stop It From Ruining Your Relationships.

It’s a typical misconception that jealousy is a sign of caring and love. The following quote was posted on Twitter, by someone whose username at least suggested they were associated with the field of psychology: “The people who are really in love get jealous about silly things.” It’s surprising that this misconception is so deeply ingrained that even people who appear to be psychologically savvy believe it.

I’ve struggled with jealousy in relationships all my life. The 6 reasons below almost fit me to a tee!

Jealousy can be a major relationship issue. As a survey of marital therapists reported, romantic jealousy was a severe problem for a third of their clients. We need to dispel the myth that jealousy is a proof of love. Still, what is that motivates jealous reactions?

Research has linked the following traits to jealousy:

-Low self-esteem.
-Neuroticism: a tendency to be moody, nervous, and emotionally unstable.
-Emotions of possessiveness and insecurity.
-Dependence on your partner:Even asking individuals to imagine that they do not have good alternative partners can lead to more negative responses to hypothetical jealousy-inducing situations.
-The feeling of inadequacy in a relationship: Generally worrying that you aren’t good enough for your partner.
-An insecure attachment style: A chronic orientation towards romantic relationships that includes fear that your partner will reject you or will not love you enough.

Research has demonstrated that temporarily causing individuals to feel more securely attached, by asking them to think about receiving affection and support from a loved one, makes them react less severely to a hypothetical jealousy-inducing scenario.

The factors that relate to jealousy are about the anxieties of jealous people and not about the love they might have for their partner.

Therefore, if your partner is showing unwarranted jealousy, what can you do?

You should first realize that your partner’s jealousy is not about you; it’s about them. You need to respond to your partner’s expressions by reassuring them of your love. Research has demonstrated that those who respond to their partners insecure feelings by proving their interest and attraction usually have more stable relationships.

But what should you do if you are the jealous partner? Here are some actions that can help you deal with your insecurities:

-Avoid situations that are likely to lead to false suspicions. In a survey, researchers discovered that jealous people tended to monitor their partners’ social media activity. The more they snooped on their partner’s Facebook, the more they would discover ‘evidence’ to worry about, which led them to spy even more and create a vicious cycle of monitoring and jealousy.

-Try to work on yourself. Build your confidence in yourself and your romantic relationship.

-Communicate more with your partner. If you’re experiencing jealousy, talk about it with them. However, you should watch the way you discuss it. Expressing anger or sarcasm won’t help. You should be direct, but not accusing and hostile. Try to calmly explain your emotions and discuss how you could find a solution. That will enable you to be more satisfied and ‘save’ your partner from getting confused by your behavior.These communication strategies can usually bring out positive reactions in your partner.
Nevertheless, jealousy is justified sometimes. If your partner has betrayed your trust by cheating on you, for instance, that’s a serious issue. If your partner doesn’t seek monogamy, and you do, it’s normal to feel jealous, but it’s also an indication that you should find another partner who’s compatible with you. It’s those ‘silly things’ that shouldn’t make you jealous. You need to be able to recognize the signs of unreasonable jealousy and find a solution.

Retrain your brain.

I’ve learned to take a step back when feelings of jealousy hit me, assess the situation, and my feelings, and find out where it stems from. When I can do this, I am better able to deal with my emotions and my partner/friend, so that the next time these feelings show up again, I feel like I have control of it better.

I always think of jealous as an ugly green monster. Jealousy is ugly. When you can view it in its hideous form, you might be able to release it quicker. How do you deal with jealousy when it strikes you? Share your tips down below.

This article was originally titled A Major Relationship Issue: What Causes Jealousy and How to Stop It. and published on Thinking Humanity. It is re-posted here, and modified, under a Creative Commons Attribution 3.0 Unported License.

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How to Deal With Depression and Suicidal Thoughts.

Your life is great. You have a great family, a fulfilling career, a spouse who loves you, and friends who get you. Then, wham, out of nowhere you can barely get out of bed in the morning, your accomplishments feel empty, and you’re overwhelmed by thoughts that you’re not enough. Do you know how to deal with depression when it hits hard?

Depression can happen to anyone, and it can happen when you least expect it. Even when life is great and you’re checking all the boxes of success, depression can knock you down so many times that you stop seeing the point in getting up again. And depression doesn’t just affect your moods—it can take also take your life.

According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, eight percent of all adults experience depression at some point in their lives. Many people with depression go on to take their own lives, and as a result, suicide is the cause behind 24 percent of deaths in 15-24 year olds and 16 percent of deaths in 25-44 year olds.

And it gets worse. Global News reports that 41 percent of Canadians are at high risk of developing a mental illness, due in part to intense stress that leaves people feeling unable to cope. For seven percent of Canadians, it’s so bad that they’ve thought about self-harm or suicide more than once in the past year.

Despite how commonplace it is, not that many people seek help for depression. While mental health stigma is thankfully decreasing, it’s still a big factor in people’s decision to get help. But sometimes, it’s not stigma that’s the problem—it’s that we don’t even know it’s depression.

How to deal with depression.

Depression doesn’t always look like an endless, suffering sadness. People with depression get up and go to work, they have social lives, and they even laugh and have fun. It can happen after a traumatic life event, it can happen in good times, and it can happen for seemingly no reason at all.

It’s those last two that throw so many people off. Think of postpartum depression: You’ve just had a child, and it’s one of the happiest times in your life. But you also feel sad and anxious, and you’re doubting your ability to be a mother. Is it postpartum depression, or do all new mothers feel this overwhelmed?

Or how about seasonal affective disorder? You’re tired all the time, all you want to eat is pasta and sweets, and you’d rather stay in alone than go out and do anything. But it’s cold, and it’s dark, and maybe it’s just the weather—after all, you felt fine two months ago, and nothing major has changed since then.

So how do you know when it’s depression? Rather than self-diagnose, talk to a mental health professional if you’re experiencing a sadness that doesn’t seem to be going away, especially if it’s affecting your daily life. Depression’s effects on sleeping and eating habits, focus, mood, and self-worth can be subtle, but together they equal a big disruption to your life.

If you’re abusing drugs or alcohol, feeling hopeless, or thinking about killing yourself, don’t wait: Call Crisis Services Canada at 1-833-456-4566 or call 911 if you’re in immediate danger.

Mental health treatment

According to Drugrehab.org, “Addiction creates many biological changes in the chemistry of the brain and can can cause altered perceptions. This distortion of reality can both amplify depressed feelings and convince someone that suicide will fix the problem.”

Getting mental health treatment is important. You can help that treatment succeed by taking additional measures to improve your mental wellness.

Eating well, living a physically active lifestyle, and staying social are important for every person’s mental well-being, but especially if you have depression. Get enough sleep, avoid drugs, alcohol, and cigarettes, and find healthy ways to stop stress.

Depression is a serious problem. But unlike suicide, it’s not forever. If any of this sounds familiar to you, or you’ve noticed signs of depression or suicide in a friend, it’s time to do something about it. There’s no shame in getting help, and there’s a lot of joy to be found in getting better.

Author bio:

 Melissa Howard firmly believes that every suicide is preventable. After losing her younger brother to suicide, she felt compelled to create an organization called “StopSuicide”. By providing helpful resources and articles on this website, she hopes to build a lifeline of information. Check out her site here Stop Suicide.

How to Recover From a Breakup in 5 Simple Steps

Ah breaking up sucks, doesn’t it? Especially if they dumped you. How could they? You did everything you thought you were supposed to do to keep this relationship alive and loving. You did everything you thought you should do to make your partner happy. Even after all that hard work, they still dumped you. What the fuck? Will your heart ever heal? We’re gonna talk about how to recover from a break up in this blog.

No one likes a breakup. Not even the person who dumped you. Believe it or not, it’s hard on them too. Ok maybe not as hard on them as it is for you but regardless, it’s hard for both parties.

So let’s forget the person who did the dumping and how about we focus all our attention on you. The hurting soul in all this. The one whose heart just got smashed into a million itty bitty pieces. We are not sure how to recover from this breakup. We are so devastated we are pretty sure we will never recover from this.

First of all, yes you will. In time, your heart will be fine and you will go on loving someone else again. But let’s look at some ways to honour ourselves after a breakup because, let’s face it, we need healing and we need it now.

How to recover from a breakup in 5 steps

It really is for your own good.

It doesn’t seem like it right now, but think about it. If this relationship was all that and a bag of chips you wouldn’t be alone right now would you? Obviously something was wrong. Something was very wrong and you probably already know what that something was. It doesn’t matter if it was you or them, it was wrong. The relationship is over and you no longer have to deal with that something (and you know it was there, don’t pretend you don’t know what I’m talking about). Take a deep breath of relief. It’s not your problem anymore.

Do something nice for you.

You probably heard this a million times but have you done it yet? There is great power in honouring yourself by way of a special treat just for you. Go do something you’ve always wanted to do but never had a chance to because you were in this relationship. You are now in a relationship with yourself. Go have fun.I found that when people wonder how to recover from a break up, being nice to yourself is probably one of the best ways.

Write yourself a love letter.

This is great fun and by the time you are done you will love yourself so fucking much you will wonder how anyone doesn’t want to be with you! Write down all the wonderful things, your hair, your legs, your heart, your sense of humour, your sensitivity, you name it, you write it. Each and every awesome thing about you. Write it with truth and honour. Don’t stop at anything.

Fall in love with you again.

Chances are, you probably lost a little bit of you in that relationship. We all usually do. Find that piece you lost and put it back inside of you along with any other pieces you lost. Once you’ve gathered up all those pieces, take a good hard look at yourself again and love yourself. Love all of you. The good, the bad and the ugly. What parts might need working on? Now is the time to do it. Was your self esteem on the way down? Give it a boost.

Totally disconnect and delete, delete, delete.

You are on the journey of healing so if you can, stop all contact with your ex and focus on you. Don’t text, write, call, FB message, email or anything. And for the love of God, don’t show up at their work questioning why they dumped you. It doesn’t matter. Who cares. They did. It’s over. Do yourself a favour and move on. Let it go. Think about you now. NO distractions, no contact with them, nudda. This is a hard one, trust me, it’s hard. But in order to move on and love yourself, you must do this. You are worth it. You wanted to know how to recover from a break up right? You gotta put in the work.

I get how we desperately want to hang on to our ex and hope we can patch things up and move forward in love. 9 times out of 10 that ain’t gonna happen. They came into your life for a reason and they left your life for a reason. Honour and embrace YOU now. All of you. It’s your life, your happiness and your peace and joy at stake here. Don’t give that much power to anyone.

Fine, go ahead and leave, see if I care (but…but….but…wait!!)

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Peace and Love

Iva

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