Understanding the Law of Attraction and Why It Doesn’t Always Work
Last Updated on 3 years by Iva Ursano
We have this vision in our heads. We use all the tools of manifestation that we’ve been taught and know so well. We see something in our minds, we feel it, we believe it, we want it so bad it hurts. We are absolutely positively without a doubt sure that we will get what we want. Period. We think we have a good understanding of the law of attraction.
We practice it and swear by it. But….does the law of attraction really work? Can it really bring the joy, success, and wealth we deserve? First, you need to know the secret behind it.
You know we pay attention to all the law of attraction gurus and do what they tell us to do but…..what the hell?
My weak attempt at the law of attraction
So here’s my story of how I applied all the steps to manifest great wealth according to the law of attraction. I thought I had a good understanding of the law of attraction. Little did I know.
I had 2 boxes of books I was determined to sell. I wrote this book as an eBook back in April 2014 but printed up 500 copies for those that prefer a physical copy. You could say I’m a bit of an optimist.
So I had a book signing event. Got rid of about 50. Had a sprinkling of people here and there buying a book. Dropped some off at some local stores. Sold one or two that way.
Months later, I’m starting to freak out. I have a little over 300 books sitting in a closet now that I desperately want and need to get rid of. These books cost me a ton of money and I ain’t seeing a return on my investment.
Fast forward a couple of months. Big event in Sudbury. Women’s show. I book a table. I’m gonna get all these darned books sold once and for all. And besides, the extra cash is going to come in handy this close to Christmas. Right? Surely these women will love to buy this book and they will all be sold. Boom!!
I prayed on it. visualized it. meditated on it. affirmed it. believed it. felt it. saw it. It was going to happen. No doubt in my mind. Not one single solitary doubt. Completely understanding the law of attraction, I knew I was gonna sell ever damn book.
And then the unthinkable. Yup. After 3 days, I came home with a box of books, minus about 10.
How could that be? I did everything the Law of Attraction gurus teach us. I had it down to a fine art. What went wrong?
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But I did all they said! Why didn’t my visualizations work??
The first night I sold one book. I went home shaking my head. I don’t get it. Did I miss something? An important step maybe? Is my book dumb or uninteresting? Every single form of self-doubt suddenly floods my brain. Maybe the LoA has flaws.
They forgot to give us the secret, but a mega important, step. I’m sure of it. I was sure I had a full understanding of the law of attraction.
I went back to the drawing board but this time I pulled out my iPad and found something different. Something interesting. Something that was going to help me get over my disappointment.
It was time to do some EFT (this blog isn’t about EFT so if you want to know more about it, I encourage you to Google it)
15 minutes later I was free. Free from the pain and sadness, disappointment and frustration left over from the day. I was now full of hope and love, peace, and happiness.
And I learned something very valuable. Actually I learned two valuable lessons from that.
One was that when you come from a place of desperation, the universe responds accordingly. Think about that for one minute. The other lesson I learned?
Understanding how the law works
I learned values, something I honestly knew little about. I’ve always just valued money and fame. Power and greed. There is so much more to life than that.
I learned another valuable lesson while trying to understand the law of attraction
The friends we make.
That’s where the true value lies. For weeks leading up to this event all I could think about was the money I was going to make, maybe focused too much of my attention on that without realizing that there is truly something more important than money, and that’s relationships.
I mean, I already knew that, right? We all know that. But this is a clear case of already knowing something but actually getting the point. Like having an *in your face* a-ha moment.
I gained a couple of things this weekend that had nothing to do with money. New friendships and new bonds. Priceless. By day 3, I could care less if I sold a book or not. I was too busy having tons of fun with my new friends and spreading light and love to all the women that attended the event.
How to attract money through the law of attraction
I think the one very important lesson I learned here is that we are so focused on attracting money and visualizations based around money that we forget to surrender, let go, and just feel happy. We are so busy chasing the almighty dollar and many of us do it from a place of desperation.
When we try to manifest from that place, as I did, nothing good comes from that. The universe feels our desperation and says “Oh, you are desperate and need the money? Ok, I’ll make sure you stay feeling desperate because it seems you like it there. That’s all you ever feel these days.”
The universe knows. Energy is everything and the energy you are putting out will come right back to you. If you want to attract money and other good and lovey type things you have to feel like you already have it and feel the feeling of what it will be like living in the life of luxury.
The law of attraction works in mysterious ways.
The Law of Attraction and Relationships
The same rule applies here if you are looking for or wanting a new love relationship. You can’t try to manifest it from a place of desperation. You will only attract someone who is just as desperate as you. Come from a place of love and watch what happens.
Everything you do has to come from a place of love and relaxation, peace if you will.
No matter what you are thinking or what you are wanting, whatever you are thinking will come back to you, good or bad. Be mindful of that.
By the way, wanna buy a book ;)
Peace and Love
The last two years have left me thinking that the Universe sends me not what I think I want, but what I really need – I am now in a better place than I could have imagined five years ago.
By the way, what is your book’s subject and title?
Hey Tim thanx for dropping a comment! I appreciate that and you are right about the universe giving us what we need, not what we want. :) I’m currently working on a mini series of books about self development. Always with a bit of an Iva spin on it :)
Thanks for the great article. A good for all. Keep writing and all the best