Last Updated on 3 weeks by Iva Ursano
You know I write an awful lot about healing from the past and forgiving others and all that kind of good stuff. I also write a lot of articles that share quotes with you and this one is no different. I thought today I would marry the two topics, healing and quotes, and share with you 30 powerful narcissistic abuse quotes that will shake you up, wake you up and remind you why you left or why you should leave!
This post has been updated from 10 quotes to 30 quotes. The new quotes about narcissism can be found at the bottom of this blog post. Thank you!
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Dealing with a narcissist is exhausting
Oy. How many of you have had many sleepless nights because of your narcissist husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend or any toxic relationship you have right now?
I’ve had my fair share that’s for sure. I can remember nights going to bed sick to my stomach and wishing the world would just end and take me out of my misery.
It’s no fun. At all.
I knew without a shadow of a doubt that no matter what I said or did, nothing was going to change. My narcissistic boyfriend was not going to change. If I wanted to be happy and live a relatively normal-ish life I had two choices:
- leave him, or
- ignore him and put up with it
You already know which one I chose. I left him and no it wasn’t easy. I had nothing to my name. Not even two cents to rub together but I knew if I ever wanted to be happy this was what I had to do.
Narcissistic people will fight you until you crumble to the ground. Too often we lose ourselves in these toxic relationships because we fear there is no way out.
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Toxic narcissistic behavior hurts everyone
For many of us, the signs aren’t so clear. I know personally that I just thought toxic narcissistic behavior was simply because of the way they were raised and they didn’t know any better.
Like they didn’t have better role models to nurture them and help them grow into loving kind human beings.
I didn’t even know that narcissistic behavior was a thing. It wasn’t until much later on in life that one of my sisters informed me that we were raised by a narcissistic mother.
I had no clue. I just thought she was a product of her upbringing.
This behavior is damaging to everyone, even the narcissist, though they don’t think it does. I feel that independent of the fact that these people in our lives are narcissists I honestly don’t believe they are happy. I think they are very sad and broken people operating on an extreme defense mechanism level.
What are the traits of a narcissist?
So many of us still have no idea we are dealing with a narcissist. Remember I had no clue. Narcissistic personality disorder is a real thing. A real scary thing.
If you recognize any of the signs listed below in your spouse, partner, family member friend, co-worker, or whoever, then you are dealing with someone who is suffering from a narcissistic personality disorder.
Signs of narcissistic personality disorder:
- frequently bully you with no remorse at all
- they seek constant praise and attention
- exaggerate talents and skills
- require and demand appreciation and attention
- an exaggerated sense of self-importance
- lack of empathy towards others
Narcissistic abuse is extremely damaging with long term effects
If you or someone you know is dealing with a narcissist please do them or yourself a favour and learn either how to deal with them or find the courage to leave. The long term effects of narcissistic abuse can go on for years.
I feel I have finally healed from all the narcissists in my life but every now and then a trigger comes up and whammo!
I’m curled up in a ball crying again. I hope one day this eventually ends. So many, too many, of us don’t heal or don’t even know we’re in a relationship with a narcissist.
If you’re not sure if you are dealing with someone who has a narcissistic personality disorder, this blog I wrote a while back might help you understand them a bit more.
You really should read it if you are unsure. It explains a lot!
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If you need help with a narcissist please check out Kim Saeed’s amazing program Break-free Bootcamp. Click here for more info or the image below.
Read these narcissistic abuse quotes as often as you have to!
Often when I sit to write articles I have to decide what kinds of things to share that I think you will get the most value from. I love to share a lot of quotes and blogs about healing and being happy and this one will be no different.
The narcissistic abuse quotes I am going to share with you today are little mini wake up calls for you. Little gentle reminders that you are better off without your narcissistic partner OR that it just might be time to leave them.
I want you to read these quotes as often as you have to. Print them out and tape them all over your house if you have to. No wait don’t do that. Especially if you are still living with your narcissist. Oops.
But maybe tuck them in your purse or wallet or pocket and read them every now and then to give you the courage you need to finally leave. Whatever you do with them and however they move you, I hope they help you in dealing with your narcissist and help you let go, heal and move on.
You might also like these great quotes blogs about being a strong woman, relationships, and letting go/moving on.
- 15 Strong Women Quotes That Will Boost Your Self Esteem
- 15 Moving On Quotes To Help You Heal
- 8 Signs It Really Is Time To Let Go and Move On
- The Main Cause of Relationship Paranoia (and how to fix it!)
10 Narcissistic Abuse Quotes
Without further ado, I will now share 10 powerful and intense narcissistic abuse quotes that will certainly hit you hard in the feels.
They will do anything in their power to make your life a living hell, even lie. Remember you deserve so much more than that. Find your voice and speak your own truth.
They will tell you it’s all in your head and that you are the problem. They will tell you that you are overreacting. Don’t buy into any of it. The abuse is the problem, not you.
They have no idea how to love. Maybe because they were never given the love we all deserve growing up. They thrive on having their ego fed and by you playing their game, it gets fed. Don’t play their game.
They are attention seekers. Remember that! As long as they keep getting the attention they crave and desire they will never change. Why would they?
5 If you don’t heal what hurt you, you will bleed all over those who didn’t cut you.
This quote actually works both ways. The narcissist will bleed all over you because he/she hasn’t healed. The other way this quote can be read is that you need to heal from your ex narcissistic partner or you will bleed over the next person.
Read that one many times if you have to. A lie is a lie is a lie and you will feel the pain from that lie forever. Part of narcissistic personality disorder is lying, a lot, all the time. Notice the signs, get out.
You know there’s a quote that goes something like this: live your life in such a way that if anyone spoke badly of you, no one would believe them. Your true friend and the people who matter and care won’t believe the narcissist’s lies. If they do, you don’t need these people in your life.
One day you will get to the point where you feel nothing, you finally see right through him and you make the decision to go. I hope you find the courage and strength to do that sooner than later.
I told ya these were gonna be hit you hard in the feels! I share them with you now to open your eyes to the truth behind narcissism.
They will suck the life right out of you. Many of them know and see your spark, your beauty, and how much people adore and love you. This will make them insanely jealous and they won’t have any of that. You know what I mean.
And probably one of the most powerful narcissist quotes ever is my favourite!
Just don’t. It’s so not worth it and you will lose every time. You will lose lots of things. Things like:
Is it worth it? Heck no! If you are in a toxic relationship right now and too afraid to leave try to find someone to talk to or who can help you. Too many of us never leave and live in misery day in and day out. Remember that’s not why we are here.
I had a lot of healing to do after I left my narcissistic boyfriend and honestly, guided meditations and hypnosis’ really helped me a lot!
I read this the other day and my mind was blown:
10 ..”hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared”
There is so much power to that statement. They thrive on hate. It’s in their blood and all they know. Narcissistic people have little to no sensitivity. They simply dgaf.
Leaving a toxic relationship is hard but not impossible
We are here to live in joy. We deserve love and to be happy. Whatever you are going through or dealing with, know you don’t have to. I know leaving is scary and hard but it’s not impossible. When I decided to leave my narcissistic boyfriend my whole world opened up to amazing opportunities and miracles.
And don’t forget to check out Kim Saeed’s also amazing course to help you break free from your narcissistic partner. She really is amazing. Click the link here for more information.
Trust that this will happen for you too. I hope these intense and powerful quotes hit you in the feels like they were meant to do. Not hurt you, but wake you up.
Did these narcissistic abuse quotes hit you in the feels?
I mean, I hope these narcissistic abuse quotes really woke you up and shook you to your core. I hope they hit you hard in the feels so that if you are still in a relationship with a narcissist that maybe these quotes will give you the courage to get up and leave.
Always remember there is help and you are never alone. Ever! Reach out to a professional if you have to or a friend/family member to help you leave your narcissist once and for all!! Don’t forget to check out Kim Saeed’s Essential Breakfree Bootcamp. She’s the real deal!!!
NEW 20 Additional Quotes About Narcissists
11 When a toxic person can no longer control you, they will try to control how others see you. The misinformation will feel unfair, but you stay above it, trusting that other people will eventually see the truth just like you did.– Jill Blakeway
12 How starved you must have been that my heart became a meal for your ego.– Amanda Torroni
13 Narcissists will destroy your life, erode your self-esteem, and do it with such stealth as to make you feel that you are the one that’s letting them down.
14 Don’t set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm
15 That which he projects ahead of him as his ideal, is merely his substitute for the lost narcissism of his childhood – the time when he was his own ideal. – Sigmund Freud
16 I wish that people would stop destroying other people just because they were once destroyed. – Karen Salmansohn
17 In a narcissist’s world you are not their one and only. You are an extension of that person and last place in their mind, while they secure back up narcissistic supply. – Shannon L. Alder
18 But the line between moral behavior and narcissistic self-righteousness is thin and difficult to discern. – Dean R.Koontz
19 Since narcissists deep down feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world’s fault. – M. Scott Peck
20 Hate is the complement of fear and narcissists like being feared. It imbues them with an intoxicating sensation of omnipotence.- Sam Vaknin
21 You will never really see how toxic someone is until you breathe fresher air.
22 Nobody can be kinder than the narcissist while you react to life on his terms. – Elizabeth Bowen
23 There’s a reason narcissists don’t learn from mistakes and that’s because they never get past the first step which is admitting that they made one. – Jeffrey Kluger
24 Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.
25 Narcissistic love is riding on the rollercoaster of disaster filled with a heart full of tears. — Sheree Griffin
26 A narcissist doesn’t break your heart, they break your spirit. That’s why it takes so long to heal.
27 It’s so nice when toxic people stop talking to you. It’s like the trash took itself out. — Karen Salmansohn
28 No matter how socially skilled an extreme narcissist is, he has a major attachment dysfunction. The extreme narcissist is frozen in childhood. – Samuel Lopez de Victoria
29 Narcissists are afflicted with a bottomless appetite. . .for recognition, attention, glory, rewards. And it’s a zero-sum thing. Every moment a narcissist spends listening to another party guest tell a story is a moment in which the stage has been surrendered. – Jeffrey Kluger
30 Underneath the so-called narcissistic personality is definitely shame and the paralyzing fear of being ordinary. – Brené Brown
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Peace and Love
xo iva xo