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Do These 5 Things First Before You Start Looking For Love

Last Updated on 2 years by Iva Ursano

I’m a writer. I love what I do. I lose myself in writing and telling stories. Some of my stories are funny (I’d like to think so anyway), some are gentle rants while others discuss overcoming challenges. Whatever the topic is, you get a big piece of me in every blog post.

Yup, I love what I do. The one thing I do love to write about is how to handle breakups, and finding true love after a break up.

A few years ago, when I started my writing journey into freelancing, I used to write a lot about love, loving yourself and finding true love. I’m all about love and I love love. My stories always come from my heart. My heart has been crushed a million times but it just keeps on loving. That’s what hearts do.

I was writing a lot to try to get noticed, try to get some nice high authority site to recognize my work, love it and publish it. That was harder than I thought but this blog about finding true love finally struck a chord with someone!  Yay me!!

This article was published originally on Steven Aitchison’s site. 

Finding true love

Now I’m a firm believer in you can’t always find love, sometimes love just finds you. I also am a firm believer that right after a break up you should not be out looking for love. You need to take some time out for yourself and start finding true love within you first.

We are all broken a little bit inside but if you don’t try to at least fix some of the broken pieces, you will keep attracting the wrong partner.

Though we all do want love and to be loved, true love starts inside you. That’s just my two cents though.

Will I Find Love?

The burning question. When will I find love? I get that being lonely sucks, trust me I get it. The article below I believe will really help you a lot in understanding the question so many of us ask ourselves all the time.

But before you click that link I really want you to check out this first! It’s my new self help eStore  It is filled with self help books, self improvement courses, personal development programs and even some mindset coaching. Everything you need to help you live the life you deserve. Click on the link now and grab the self help tool of your choice!

5 Things You Must Do Before You Look for Love Again.

Ah, we all love being in love, yes? Who doesn’t? How we love to have that warm fuzzy feeling when you have that special someone  bring you flowers, open the car door for you, leave cute little post-it notes on the coffee maker for you.  Yes, love is bliss. With it, also comes that beautiful “I’m in love” glow that all your friends are so jealous of. You have a skip in your step, butterflies in your tummy and life is just so damn good. You wish you had that. That love. You’d do almost anything to have it, wouldn’t you?

Not so fast, sunshine.

red umbrella eiffel towerPinThat love will come at a very high price if you don’t have this one very crucial thing.

SELF LOVE! Yup, I said it. Self-love.

Do you have a history of attracting losers and cheaters and control freaks? Are you constantly attracting the wrong kind of guy? I’m going out on a limb here and assume that if you are reading this article then you answered yes to those questions. Do you ever wonder why this keeps happening to you? The answer is simple. You don’t love yourself enough yet. I know, I know, this sounds mean, but you have no idea how true it is.

When we don’t hold our values as high as they should be and our boundaries are weak, we allow less than desirable partners into our lives. Why? Because we want love so bad we’ll do just about anything, right?  Even settle for the wrong kind of partner. But what kind of love do you want? Don’t you want that happy, trusting, butterflies in your tummy kinda love? That faithful, beautiful, warm love? You know the kind. The kind that gives you a skip in your step.  The kind that makes you feel like the  most  beautiful,  most  loved,  most  adored and  most  important person in the whole wide world.

So how do we love ourselves first? There’s no magic pill here, no quick fix. This might take a bit of time. How much time depends on you and how fast it takes you to realize that you are awesome!!

  • The first thing you need to do is believe that: you  ARE  beautiful,  you  ARE  wonderful,  you  ARE  important, and  YOU  are the most special and magnificent person in the whole wide world. Yup, you sure are. Tell yourself this daily. Hourly if you have to. Say it. Mean it. Feel it. Believe it.
  • Make a list of what you want and what you don’t want. Do NOT compromise the *don’t want* part of this list.
  • Set boundaries. This will help you become a stronger person when you do this and stick to it!
  • Look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are and how much you love yourself. I do this all the time. Honest I do.
  • Know what your values are and don’t sacrifice them for anyone, ever.

When you love yourself so much, you will soon feel happy and confident and with that, you will attract men that see this confidence and beauty inside of you. These men will treat you with respect, admire you and won’t try to take that away from you. These are confident happy men that want the same in their woman.

If there is something about yourself that you don’t love, then change it! Change it now! The longer you wait to do that, the more losers you will attract. It’s a vicious cycle, really. Stop the cycle. You have the power in you to do that. Oh yes you do!! Trust me on this one.

Geez Iva, can you be any more beautiful today?

Originally published on Steven Aitchison’s site

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  1. Thank you for a great article Iva. It has really resonated with the CYT audience and has had over 6,500 shares on Facebook already, wonderful job.

  2. Hey Steve, thanx for popping by!! :) I am overwhelmed by the response of your audience! Awesome to say the least. Thank you so much and I look forward to sharing more inspiring posts in the future. ♥

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