How to Build Self Confidence in 5 Powerful and Effective Steps
Last Updated on 2 years by Iva Ursano
Feeling confident is complicated, and it can vary in levels of intensity from day-to-day. Building confidence is never-ending; It’s a daily practice and a life-long journey. Today we’re going to discuss how to build self confidence in 5 powerful and easy steps!
Growing your self-assurance comes in stages and phases, all of which teach you lessons and help you develop into improved versions of yourself over time.
You may be wondering where to begin, where to look for assistance, or how to change your life for the better.
Don’t worry!
While nobody has everything figured out when it comes to mastering the art of how to build self confidence, we do know some of the best practices to guide you along your unique journey, and it all begins and ends with you.
How to build self confidence in 5 powerful yet simple steps
We all know that in order to build self confidence we must first look at why we don’t have self confidence in the first place. This could be for many reasons but the main ones are:
- self doubt plugged in at an early age
- abusive relationships that made us feel worthless
- low self esteem due to many failures in life
- being bullied while growing
Once we identify the causes of low self confident then we can start working on eliminating all those limiting beliefs and move on to become a happier more confident person!
1 What Makes You Feel Most Confident?
Nothing makes a person feel confident than knowing they are really good at something.
Vocalize what you like about yourself, and what you know to be your strong suits. Maybe you love the look of your natural hair texture, or you know that you are a really great friend, or perhaps you’re aware that you are a natural leader in the workplace. Whether you realize it or not, you are really good at certain things and you should feel great about that!
Use those strengths as fuel for your self confidence journey.
Focus on those aspects about yourself and how you came to be confident about them. It probably took you a while to notice these things about yourself. You certainly didn’t gain these attributes over-night, did you?
Just look at the qualities of mentally strong people. It took years of practice and lessons to get them to where they are now. Keep that idea in mind on your journey to building your confidence in other areas as well.
It will be challenging, and you will have good days and bad days, but this journey is one of the most important ones you can embark on over the course of your life.
2 Map Out Your Goals
Recognizing what you are already confident about will help boost your self-esteem even more. Knowing that you feel good about a certain skill, talent, or characteristic about yourself should give you the drive to want to improve other things about yourself.
You know that you have the ability to be confident, so there is no reason why you can’t make positive changes in other areas of your life as well.
Think about the things that you still feel insecure about or that you want to change about yourself.
Could you be a better friend? Or a better communicator? Do you neglect your outward appearance because you don’t have the time, or don’t think it matters?
All of the little things that you know you could put more effort into will aid you along your confidence journey.
Small things like wearing your favorite outfit or reaching out to a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while can have a major impact on the way you feel about yourself and your confidence level.
So, take the time to think about where you could improve or what you would like to change about yourself, and then take the next steps to help you get there. Read on to find out how you can make small changes every day to become a more self confident person.
3 Care for Your Outward Appearance
When it comes to feeling confident, the way you present yourself to others has a great deal to do with it. A major source of confidence is physical appearance.
Before you can gain new-found pride in your appearance, you must take time to realize that beauty comes from within. Your personality, the way you speak, act, and think, all contribute to the many ways that you are beautiful.
Your physical appearance is only a small fraction of what makes up your beauty.
It is so easy to get caught up in physical appearances in today’s society. There is so much emphasis placed on a woman’s outward beauty, and so little focus on the humanity of women.
We are so much more than our appearances.
However, we cannot deny the impact of the way we perceive ourselves on our level of self- confidence. Typically, if we don’t like the way we look, we won’t feel as confident.
Our versions and expectations of what it means to be beautiful can vary, but what it all boils down to is our own perception of our outward appearance. If we don’t look the way we want to or hope to, it can seriously reduce our confidence.
That’s why no woman should feel shame for wanting to improve her appearance for herself.
Putting effort into your appearance is not only a great way to make you feel good, but also look good!
Starting with your skincare, taking time to address your concerns each day with a simple routine and specialized skin care treatments suitable for your skin type will serve to support your complexion from the inside-out.
Not only is skincare a reputable way to improve the look and feel of your skin, but it is an opportunity to spend some quality time with yourself each day, doing something that is just for you and your confidence.
4 Take Time for Mindfulness and Physical Activity
Having good mental health, physical health, and hygiene are all essential to feeling your best. We all know it can require quite a bit of effort to stay on top of these things, but a great way to boost your self confidence is to make time for yourself.
It is so important to make time every day, or every other day to move your body and take care of your mind. Reading a book, watching your favorite show, talking with a friend, keeping yourself clean and fresh all can go a long way on your confidence journey.
Often, when we feel our worst, these simple actions of self-love can be neglected.
When we neglect ourselves and don’t feed our minds with the things we love, our self-confidence can quickly decline. It is difficult to break out of a tough time when we aren’t feeling our best, but pushing yourself to do a few things that you love each day will bring you back to yourself and push you forward on your journey to confidence.
Maybe you find yourself stressed out at the end of each workday, and it makes you feel less confident in your ability to maintain relationships with those you live with or care about.
Stress has the power to distance you from those you care about most, so finding ways to wind down at the end of each day will allow you to feel like yourself again and keep you connected to those who matter most. To alleviate this, make time for mindful activities each day, whether this means listening to a guided meditation or practicing a quick yoga routine or a walk around the block.
A little bit of physical or mental activity can go a long way for both your health and confidence.
Aside from the fact that physical activity can boost endorphins and enhance your mood, in the long run, it can also help you create a healthy body that feels strong and confident. When you are feeling your best physically, you’re bound to feel more self-assured as well.
5 Give Yourself Positive Self-Talk
In your self confidence journey, you are your guiding force. You are responsible for getting yourself to where you want to be, and you are in control of how you get there. You can’t achieve your goals if you don’t believe in yourself, or if you speak to yourself in a negative way.
That’s why positive self-talk is going to be your greatest ally when working to become a more confident you.
If you are struggling with your self-esteem, you are probably suffering from self-defeating thoughts. These are the thoughts of doubt you have in your ability to improve, or your need to compare yourself to others who are at a different point in their confidence journey than you.
Self-defeating thoughts wreak havoc on your self-esteem, making you feel lonely, anxious, and even depressed. Learning how to break this bad habit, and move on toward a positive inner monologue will give you that push you need to become your best self.
Positive self-talk means recognizing small successes and knowing that you are deserving of such things. Telling yourself that you are worthy, smart, beautiful, kind, funny, or anything along those lines will reinstill your knowledge of what you are already confident about in yourself and will allow you to become more confident in other areas of your life as well.
Do you remember this viral video? We can learn a lot from little Jessica!
Praising yourself is a good way to build self confidence
Say one day, you’ve done something that you are particularly proud of—whether it be that you worked out a solution to a problem at work, or you took the stairs that day— you should praise yourself for that.
Don’t think of these achievements as a coincidence or a one-time thing that will never happen again. Know that you can have an amazing day every day if you just have the right mindset.
Small wins are still wins, and you should be sure to celebrate them everyday!
Simple yet effective self confidence tips
You can see it’s not really that hard to build self confidence. You simply needed the right tools! Now that you have them, make sure you use them every time you feel your self confidence is slipping.
Because it will slip but at least now you know how to better manage it when that happens.
I also want to take a minute to share some tips for you if you know someone whose self confidence just went down the drain and they are feeling down on themselves.
Here are a few things you can say to raise someone’s self confidence:
- I’m glad you’re my friend
- I’m so blessed to have you in my life
- I love the way you always make me feel so good about myself
- I think you’re such an awesome person
Little things like this can make such a big difference to someone.
I hope you enjoyed all these little tips. Powerful, yet simple. And don’t forget to hit that share button. Sharing is definitely caring.
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xo iva xo
