You know, 5 years or so ago when I realized my life was slowly starting to sink into rock bottom I did something I had stopped doing years ago. Reading books. But this time I knew I needed something other than Stephen King. It was time to start digging into personal development and self improvement. It was my first go at reading self help books and lemme tell ya, I’m sure glad I did.
I honestly believe the first step to personal growth or self improvement is recognizing that you need help and that you can’t do it alone anymore. I had finally sunk to the bottom, rock bottom that is, when I realized it was time to kick my healing into high gear. I devoured YouTube videos, I listened to audios and read a shit ton of self help books. I also read a lot of free mini guides online “sign up now to get your free guide to xyz” Some of those helped, many didn’t.
Self help books aren’t for everyone
And I totally get that. But don’t discount the power of them either. Most of the authors of these books have gone through some serious shit in their life. They weren’t born with silver spoons in their mouths. Some of them even hit rock bottom, like me. Maybe even like you. Maybe you’re still there. Maybe you can’t afford to buy books right now.
I couldn’t. But I got to a point where I couldn’t afford not to buy them either. I found the money. I bought the books. I changed my life.
At one time, I never really believed self help books could even help me. I kinda thought they were all a bunch of bullshit to be honest. Until I bought my first one. It was at that moment, I totally got it then. The writers of these books don’t just want your money. They truly want you to have a happy life.
I appreciated their sincerity. I needed it.
In no particular order, and I’ve even included the self help book I wrote this year, here they are:
This was the very first book I bought and devoured it quickly, and then went back and read it two more times. A powerful book on learning how to not only forgive those who hurt you but to forgive yourself for any things you keep tormenting yourself with. This was beautifully written and a pure powerhouse!
Another book from Rhonda and a favourite of mine and though I did buy The Secret and enjoyed that one as well I found this book to be more, shall I say, it just resonated more and I found it was easier to believe and follow. Though The Secret was good there are many things in that book I don’t really subscribe to. The Power takes it to a whole new level.
Honestly, everyone should read this one. We stress too much about shit that just doesn’t matter and we place too much value on people and things that don’t really deserve it. This no bull shit book will totally change the way you look at things, people, and life.
Ah-Mazing!!! This book was on the top shelf in my nightstand and I referred to it often. Louise Hay is so genuine and loving and her books are soothing for any broken soul. This book goes into great depths to understanding your pain and emotions and healing them all on a very natural and intuitive level. I love this book with all that I am.
Boom!! Jen Sincero is raw and real and doesn’t hold back. This self help book is funny, empowering, uplifting and very real. When you are done this book you will have no doubt in your mind that you are, indeed, a badass and you are great!! This one comes with colourful language so reader beware.
This is my self help guide book that will take you through what I went through and how I came out happier and more in love with life and myself. There are exercises to do and challenges to overcome but it’s everything I learned in my self improvement journey that I share with you.
If I had to recommend just one, I honestly wouldn’t be able to. Each one of these self help books (excluding mine of course) got me through some very troubled times. I have to put 5 stars on all of them.
Know that right now, if you are going through a hard time, or feel stuck or frustrated, you’re not alone and there is help, always, available. Reach out to a friend, or a counselor or someone to talk to. Things will get better. Everything is temporary. Even the bad times.
With much love
xo iva xo
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