Last Updated on 3 years by Iva Ursano
I think it’s no secret that these days more and more of us are running out of patience and we’re starting to get on each other’s nerves. Not only that but we seem to be hanging on to all this anger and resentment and it’s building up. Today I want to talk about how to let go of anger and stress so you can be more chill.
It doesn’t matter whether you are angry at 1 person or 100 people, the effects are still the same. Being angry and having that much hate in your heart will do no good for any one, especially not YOU!.
That anger you’re holding onto is causing you more damage than you realize and it’s time to let it go. For real.
Ever find yourself in a conversation with your best friend and you get talking about that “person” who pissed you off and you can feel your heartbeat getting faster and faster, your words are coming out in fury, your hands almost start trembling, there’s a tight knot in your stomach?
Ya, all that. It sucks and it isn’t doing you any good, at all. I think maybe it’s time to take a closer look at all this anger and see exactly what it’s doing to you (not for you).
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It’s not that easy to let go of anger
It’s not. Many of us do have anger issues (if that’s the case please seek help) but it’s also not impossible to let all that anger go. You just need to learn how to let go of anger and resentment. So many of us like to carry our pain and hurt like a trophy.
In this video from my YouTube channel I talk a lot about this thing called a ‘pain trophy’ and how damaging it is to you.
I hope you took a few minutes to watch that video. I mentioned putting your trophy down and releasing all the people who hurt you. All the pain, anger and resentment. I think before we go on I need to share one very important thing with you. It’s a quote but it’s super deep.
Hurt people, hurt people.
Now this quote works both ways. Either you’ve been hurt by a hurt person OR you are the hurt person who keeps hurting others because of all the pain and anger you keep carrying around.
Physical signs of anger
Did you know that when we hang on to anger and pain it manifests into a physical ailment, disease, pain, etc. What we hold on to on the inside shows up on the outside on our bodies. Same with food. You know that whole “you are what you eat”? Well it’s true.
Here is a list of physical signs of anger you just may recognize. This is the power of anger and stress!
- tightness in chest
- back pain
- high blood pressure
- stomach issues (IBS/Diarrhea/Constipation, etc)
- low sex drive
Look at what holding on to anger and stress does to your body!! Good grief. Why do you want to continue to suffer like that?
How to let go of anger and stress
Now that we see how anger and stress can manifest into serious physical ailments, I’m going to break down a few of them and tell you how to let go of anger and stress so you can finally be happy and pain free, emotionally and physically.
You might want to check out this fantastic book by Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life
I had this book when I lived up in Canada and it nailed so many of my ailments and linked them to so many of my emotions. You’ll seriously be blown away by this book.
See if you recognize any of these signs.
You already know that every time you think of your ex, talk about the crap he/she did, you get a headache. It happens every single time. How fun is that? Do you think he/she is sitting around caring about that thing they did to you and getting a headache too? I doubt it.
Or maybe it’s your neighbor that pissed you off. Or maybe that guy who just cut you off in traffic. Point is that it doesn’t really matter who pissed you off, it happened and every time you think about this person or event, you get a headache.
Don’t you think you deserve peace of mind? Headache free peace of mind? Of course you do! Does that thing really matter anymore in the grand scheme of things or you just rehashing it to try to get more people to agree with you that that person “is a jerk and ya they did you wrong”.
Who cares? Let it go. Is it gonna matter in 5, 10 or 30 years? Nope. Not one bit. Is there anything you can do about it anyway? Nope, nudda. Guess what I’m gonna tell you next…
Let it go. Next time you get thinking about it and just before your blood starts boiling, stop yourself and remind yourself that your peace of mind is more important. Honest it is.
Are you suffering with any of these right now? It sucks right? Did you know that a lot of the emotional things we hang on to, like anger, hurt and pain, show up as insomnia, agitation and fatigue? Interesting right? And let’s not forget that the more tired we are, the more agitated we get and the more stress we hold on to.
And we hold on to all of this because some jerk ruffled our feathers or pissed us off.
So let’s go back to the question I asked earlier, do you think the person who pissed you off is going through any of this too? Of course not. They could not care less.
One way of letting go of anger and hurt is to forgive the person who hurt you. I know, easier said than done but honestly, it really is easier than you think. Check out my mini self help eBook on how to forgive those who hurt us. You can click here or the image below to grab your copy now.
Wasting precious time
Your losing precious time which could be better spent being happy, in joy, at peace, laughing, enjoying life, etc. Yup. You hanging onto all that anger is robbing you of the life you deserve to live. A life of crazy ridiculous joy!
Why would you waste, or keep wasting, any of your life being angry at someone or something that just doesn’t matter anymore? Have you heard the expression “Life is too short”? Of course you have. Stop wasting your life being angry at stupid crap. Smarten up!
Guess what I’m gonna tell you now…..let it go…for real. And how do we do that? Through forgiveness!
Letting go of anger and stress
You know, I’ve had a lifetime of really, and I mean really, crappy things that have been done to me. From the beatings I endured from the people who were supposed to love me, to the ex who lied and cheated, to the so called friend who robbed me of $1000…
I could go on but you get the idea.
I’m no stranger to crap and I’m sure you’re not either. We’ve all suffered some form of crap from someone over something. I’ve learned to let things go. I’ve learned how to let go of anger and stress through forgiveness.
Now I get that forgiveness isn’t for everyone and not everyone wants to forgive people who did them wrong. I get this. In that case you might want to try a few anger management strategies below.
Anger Management Strategies
Try any or all of these anger management strategies next time you feel your blood start boiling.
- go for a walk
- deep breathing
- walk away from the situation
- punch a pillow
- write out your anger
How to let go of anger and stress right now
You can see that my most popular method to let go of anger and stress is to forgive everyone who hurt you. I talk a lot about it because it works. If forgiveness isn’t right for you, right now, try the anger management strategies listed above.
I think what I really need you to know that is the most important is that holding on to anger, hurt, pain, resentment, etc is only hurting you, not the other person. They don’t care. At all.
You don’t deserve to live like this. You deserve happiness and inner peace.
Peace and Love