How To Spot a Narcissist-5 Warnings Signs Not To Ignore

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It seems people are throwing this word around like confetti. Everyone, at least once in their life, has come into contact with a narcissist. For some of us, it has been family members, for others, their significant others. But still many of us don’t know how to spot a narcissist. 

Too often, we will chalk up their behaviour to a bad upbringing or a rough life but there’s so much more to it than that. 

To be honest, and in my defense, for the longest time I had no clue what a narcissist was. I just thought that some people I had to deal with just had shitty behaviour. Period. Like they were just naturally jerks or bullies. 

Such is not the case. 

How to spot a narcissist-5 warning signs

Can a narcissist change?

This is a big question. Many of us are fixers, amirite? We know someone has issues or problems and we want to do everything in our power to ‘help’ them, make them better, fix them. Fact of the matter, we can’t but that doesn’t mean they can’t change. 

I truly believe that each and every one of us has the power to change, but only if we truly can recognize the problem lies in us and we want to fix it. So can a narcissist change? The optimist in me says absolutely yes, I think they can. 

Only if they want to. Stop trying to do that for them. You’ll only frustrate yourself. 

Are you a narcissist?

I’ll admit, I never knew how to spot a narcissist. Not a clue. I started seeing more and more blogs pop up on the internet and the more I read, the more I realized I had many in my life. Even my mom. I’ve dated my fair share of them and even worked with one or two. 

Now that I know what to look for, my narcissist radar is always on. You might also like these blogs I wrote about toxic relationships and dealing with a narcissist.

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Before we get into the meat and potatoes of this blog and how to spot a narcissist, you might want to check out my self help guide. It’s jam packed, powerful and life changing and will help you find your self love and self worth again. These two ‘selfs’ are good to have in your arsenal so you can avoid narcissistic behaviour. 

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How to spot a narcissist

So how do we know if the person we are dealing with really is a narcissist or just has ‘glitches’, if you will, in their personality? Let’s go over 5 warning signs that will show you how to spot a narcissist. Some narcissistic traits stand out more than others. Watch out for these 5. 

5 warning signs of narcissist personality disorder

They need constant praise and attention/admiration

They have this air about them that’s all “hey look at me and look at all the great things I did/I am and look how important I am and I’m so much better than you”. 

Ya, they got that thing going on. It’s annoying af and though it just sounds like bragging, well it is, but it’s a clear sign that they are a narcissist. Pay attention to their inflated ego. It will shine bright. If you are dealing with someone like this, know that without a shadow of a doubt, they don’t really care about you and they probably never will. 

They are far more important than you and whatever they are bragging about is way better than anything you’ve ever done. They don’t want to hear it. 

Frequently belittles people/you

They have no problem talking down to you. I mean, remember, they are better than you in every sense of the word. You are stupid, ignorant, not as good, or whatever and they are always going to one up you. Sometimes they will do this by belittling you, by making you feel stupid. 

Narcissists have no problem being the bully. They’re actually quite good at it. It almost comes naturally to them. You or anyone else, will never be as good as them. They are perfect, you are the dirt on the bottom of their shoe and have no qualms in letting you know that. 

It’s almost like they don’t even have a conscious. Talking down to people without batting an eyelash. Not many people can do that and not feel bad. Only a true narcissist can pull that off. 

Gaslighting

This is another term that has recently come to the surface and also, one I had no idea what it meant. Until I finally looked it up. The light bulb went off in my head like the 4th of July. Gaslighting is when someone manipulates you and brainwashes you into thinking that everything is your fault. They will manipulate you to believe something that they believe is right no matter how much you are against it. 

A narcissist is a master of gaslighting. Remember, they are always right/better/smarter/greater than everyone else and they will do whatever they have to do to make you see their side is the right side. 

They will always make you feel like you are not worthy of anything and that whatever is wrong is all because of you. 

Always right, never wrong. 

Don’t try telling a narcissist they are wrong about anything, ever. They are never wrong and if you try to correct them they will get extremely defensive and argumentative. They are so not open minded when it comes to be corrected. 

They know everything. They are the best. They are the smartest, etc. Need I go on? The sad part of all that is they may even know they are wrong but they will never admit it and don’t expect an apology either. 

Narcissistic Traits

If you are dealing with anyone who has any of these narcissistic traits, it’s best you walk away. As a matter of fact, run. Run fast the other way. This person will only beat you down until you no longer have any self worth or self confidence. Therapy will be required. Trust me on that one. 

If you are directly involved with a narcissist (relationship/family member/etc) remember to work on your self and your happiness and not let them get to you or beat you down. I know that’s easier said then done but eventually, when you stop putting up with their crap, they may reduce the frequency that they torment you. 

Dealing with a narcissist

Plain and simple, it’s no easy feat and if you can get away from this person, all the better. If that’s not possible, stand up to them. Find and use your voice more. Don’t let them belittle you. Stand up to them more often. Call them out on their bs. Don’t be afraid to tell them to stop. 

You must always remember that first and foremost, your happiness is more important than anything. Also remember that you are awesome and amazing and don’t let them make you believe anything less. 

Peace and Love

ox iva xo

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  • I found your article very familiar, too familiar. I was married to a narcissist for 15 years. I was able to break free and so was my daughter. Unfortunately my 18 year old son wasn’t as fortunate. He took his own life 7 months ago over an argument my ex husband started with him. It was years of abuse for my son. Years of anger, years of pain. His story is sad and I have made it my mission to forever be his voice. I am sharing your article in hopes that others will be saved from narcissistic abuse. Thank you, Shannon Reel

    • Omg I’m so sorry xo. Thank you for reading and sharing. I am sending you so much love right now xoxox

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