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7 Self Limiting Beliefs That Are Making You Miserable

Last Updated on 2 years by Iva Ursano

Are the words ‘self limiting beliefs’ overrated or maybe expressed too often? Do you even know what they mean? To be perfectly honest with you, I didn’t for the longest time. I thought it was some higher power woowoo term for who knows what.

I just didn’t give it much thought. I sure do now!

Seems even me, positive optimistic Iva has limiting beliefs. Who knew?

I’ve been spending an awful lot of time lately working on myself and improving my life in all areas. Health, happiness, love, abundance, you name it, I’m doing it. Personal growth work never stops. The more you work on yourself, the better you become each day.

You can’t just do work for one month and then say to yourself “Ok I got it, I’m good now”.

Nope. Doesn’t work like that. Wanna know why?

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The limiting beliefs we battle daily

Yes, edaily. We all do. It’s virtually impossible to go throughout your entire day remaining optimistic and cheery and positive. If anyone tells you they are happy and optimistic all the time 24/7, they’re lying.

A new study has found the average person has more than 6000 thoughts every day. Researchers have developed a new way to determine the beginning and end of each thought. Identifying this moment as a “thought worm” has allowed scientists to calculate exactly how many we have a day – and the average was a staggering 6200.

Source: Newshub.

Trust me, they aren’t all positive and some of them hold negative self talk and limiting beliefs.

So there are the usual ones that go something like this:

“I’m so fat”

“My skin is bad”

“These jeans make me look too thin”

You know the usual body image bashing ones. I battle these ones too. As I age I am noticing more wrinkles, less strength, more flab, you know typical stuff. But….

The real damaging limiting beliefs are these ones I am going to share with you now and you need to drop them immediately if you want to be happy, have peace with yourself, attract good things in your life and accomplish your life goals!!

Overcoming negative thoughts

Our mind is such a powerful thing amirite?

I think we don’t even realize the power of the subconscious mind but I want you to take a look at your outside world. If it’s poopy or sad or makes you kinda depressed, you can blame your subconscious mind and inner thoughts for that. Our minds are such powerful tools and we just forget that.

But overcoming limiting beliefs is also possible with the power of your mind. Just as negative thoughts control and create your life, so do positive ones.

You must learn to feed your mind happy and healthy thoughts. You must convince your mind that you are amazing and awesome and good enough. It’s time to replace your limiting beliefs with more positive thoughts. More optimistic thoughts.

Even if you don’t believe them at first, keep at it. Practice makes perfect and one day you will be manifesting the good things you have been thinking about.

Here we go, in no particular order of importance:

7 self limiting beliefs you need to dump now

If you want to change your life, get rid of these now! Your thoughts control and determine your life. Sounds ridiculous but it’s true. If all you do is think negative thoughts all day long, how can your life be positive or happy at all? It can’t.

1 I can’t do this

Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, either way, you’re right-Henry Ford

Now before you all get mad at me I completely understand that there really are some things we simply can’t do due to physical restrictions, maybe financial restrictions as well (though that’s questionable at times) or other things but I’m not talking about those things.

I’m talking about the things that you absolutely positively CAN do if you just put your mind to it and take action! Lemme give you a good example. I often get other people to tackle projects on my site because I know nothing about WordPress or how to customize it or anything like that.

Well today that all changed. I decided to take matters in my own hands and learn the darn thing!!!

It was hours of pulling out my hair, watching tutorials and throwing my hands up in the air but I finally did what I set out to accomplish. I did it myself after years of saying I CAN’T, I finally switched that limiting belief to ” I’m gonna give it a shot and do it myself”.

It wasn’t easy but it was worth it.

I can now scratch that limiting belief off my list!

2 I’ll never be successful

This is a tough one. I’ve felt this one often. Even though it may seem my life is perfect, it’s far from it. I’m fairly happy, I love what I do but I still struggle to make a decent living and have the life I truly dream of. Many times I’ve whispered to myself “this is hopeless”.

How many times have you said that to yourself?

You need to axe this one from your vocabulary and thought pattern right now. We are all deserving of a great life and success but you have to go after it! You have to want it so bad you can taste it. You have to pick something, a goal or a dream you want to realize and hunt it down like a pitbull.

Stop at nothing. You have to know in your heart you are absolutely deserving of success and you can have it if you want it bad enough and have enough faith in yourself.

Yes it takes hard work but nothing good comes easy. Can you imagine if everything was just handed to us all the time? As nice as that sounds, in the end, they are rewardless ‘things’. Great rewards come in doing something yourself and accomplishing them!!

3 I’m always broke/I can’t afford that

Ya I hear ya. This is such a biggie for so many of us.

I’m sick of wondering how on earth I’m going to pay rent this month. I wish I could travel more and go to different places to help with poverty but my limiting belief of ‘I’m broke’ will never let me fulfill this.

Though it’s hard to start shouting out positive affirmations (trust me, I get this) and they don’t sound very genuine or sincere or even powerful as we are saying them, there’s still a way to switch off the ‘I’m broke’ broken record. I have always had a hard time with affirmations. They sound ridiculous to me at times.

So what I’ve been doing is stopping myself immediately when a negative thought comes in and say to myself “Iva, what are you manifesting right now”? More crap obviously.

This method is super quick and snaps you back into reality. Remember, your thoughts manifest your life. If you choose crappy thoughts, well, you guessed it, you manifest a crappy life! Keep that in mind!

Try saying this instead “I am grateful for all the amazing things I have in my life now and I know more good things are on their way to me”

4 I’m not smart enough/good enough

Smart enough or good enough for what? For who? This is a ridiculous limiting belief and I used to battle this one all the time but that’s only because this one was plugged into my brain as a child growing up. I was never good enough. I was always stupid. I was a disappointment.

It was pretty horrible actually.

But I recognized this self limiting belief didn’t come from me but the people who raised me. I had to unplug it and rewire my brain to believe that YES I am smart enough and good enough.

You can do this too. You have special gifts, skills and talents no one else has. Remember that.

5 I’m such a failure

I could seriously write a book about this one (I really should). I’ve hit rock bottom 3 times, declared bankruptcy twice, lost a business and had my online business crash twice and I have never ONCE thought I was a failure.

This f word needs to be removed from the dictionary. You are NOT a failure and you never were one NOR will you ever be one. Remember most people are too afraid to even try some of the stuff you have.

We don’t know if something will work or not unless we try it. If it doesn’t work that doesn’t mean we failed. Kudos to you for at least trying. Pick yourself up and try something else.

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6 I deserve to be treated poorly

People actually think this. This makes me so sad and angry. There isn’t a single person on the planet who has the right to treat you poorly. Read that again.

No one deserves to be treated poorly and people who do that are mean ugly people who are hurting inside. Hurt people hurt people. You need to stand up to these people and not let them treat you poorly anymore.

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7 I’ll never find true love

Of course you will. Why would you even say that? I mean, do you want to find true love? Do you believe in true love? What are your thoughts around love anyway?

If you have toxic negative thoughts about love and have always been in toxic relationships then history will repeat itself unless you heal!! And then learn to love yourself. 

We are all deserving of love and abundance and good things. We really are. But you have to let go of the thoughts that you don’t. Take time to learn how to love yourself and believe in love again.

Your thoughts create your life-dump limiting beliefs today

Our thoughts whether good or bad, create our life. If you want a happy life, have happier thoughts. If you want to stay stuck in misery, well…..that’s up to you! Everything is up to you. Your life, your choices! Choose wisely.

Next time you catch yourself in a negative thought or a limiting belief stop immediately and say to yourself or out loud “what am I manifesting right now?”. That should help you!

Peace and Love

xo iva xo

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  1. Thank you so much for your positive reinforcement and gentle encouragement. I run across your blog, saving positive quotes from time to time and I just have to tell you how helpful it is to hear encouragement, coupled with the reality of the realization that the journey is hard and it REALLY SUX sometimes(currently trying to pick myself up from yet another low-and this time had been a struggle) Today your positive energy has lifted me up just a bit, and so I shall try,try again.
    (Sigh) Thank you -for the battle must wage on, if I ever hope to win the war. Though some days I wonder if the fight is just worth the constant struggle, it’s through other’s positive outlook that I can regain the faith that it will be , and so I will live to fight another day.

    1. Yup the battle must wage on and you will win it. Some days are harder than others, but keep going my friend. Keep holding on to the thought and hope that good things are just around the corner for you xoxox

  2. Thank you for your insight! I am immediately practicing these methods of kicking out my negative thoughts!!

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