Don’t You Dare Give Up!

I’m sure you’ve heard that expression before. When you give up, it’s game over. We fight to stay in the game so hard some days. Some days you wonder what it’s all for. It can feel hopeless.

I’ve recently been feeling like this. I work hard, up to 12 hours a day some days. I take little “me” breaks and then feel guilty because I think I should be working. I work til my head wants to explode, At the end of the day I go to bed and wonder if I accomplished anything of great value.

Did I make a difference in someone’s life today? Did I manage to touch at least one life? Am I on the right path? Is any of this working? It can all be very overwhelming sometimes.

I feel like giving up

Yup. Some days I just wanna pack it all in. I can’t see the fruits of my labour. I can’t feel the impact I’m making. I sit alone in my apartment up to 12 hours a day and get so fed up that I want to curl up in a ball and just tap the fuck out.

There are days I just want to give up and call game over. I’m done. So done. I’m not even sure what the driving force is some days to keep me going. I think this work ethic is just innate now. It’s all I’ve known for the last 3 years of my freelancing career. Work, write, engage, connect. Rinse and repeat.

Show me something?

Do you often feel like that? What’s it all for? Why do I keep doing what I’m doing? I feel like I’m on a hamster wheel going nowhere fast. It’s exhausting, it’s frustrating, it’s lonely and it’s somewhat aggravating. When will the rewards show itself?

Some of you may have been working really hard on a project. Maybe you have a dream you’re trying to actualize. Or could it be that you have an idea or a goal you are working toward and it seems almost pointless, hopeless if you will.

There aren’t any signs or clues that you are on the right path. Nothing. Crickets. When? When will something, anything, show itself to let me know I’m doing ok and I need to stay on my path and that it’s not game over?? When?

Is the game over for real?

I think about this sometimes and it’s usually just a very fleeting thought. I can’t give up. I didn’t come this far to only come this far. I’m not done. I’m far from done. It’s not game over for me, even though I really want it to be some days.

And then two things happen to me today that just confirm, I’m ok and keep going. My friend who is a podcast junkie critiques my new podcast and tells me it’s fantastic. Phew. Yay me. I’m doing ok.

And then over on Tailwind (this may be confusing for some here and I’m sorry) in a tribe I belong to over there (where we share each other’s pins) Tony Robbins is now a member and he re-pins one of my inspirational quotes. Are you fucking kidding me right now??

It’s the little things

Things that may be little to some people but are so fucking huge to others, like me. Though Tony Robbins re-pinning one of my quotes isn’t exactly a little thing (though to him it might have been) it’s things like that that make me realize it’s all good. I’m on the right path.

It’s when you are at the breaking point that something usually gives. Something finally happens. Just when we’re about to give up and call game over, there’s a light.

It could be the smallest flicker of light. A tiny little flame. A spark if you will. Look for the little things that gently remind you you’re on the right path. You’re doing ok. Keep going. Don’t give up.

You didn’t come this far to only come this far. It’s not game over. Ever.

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New Beginnings and Abrupt Endings-The Leo New Moon in August.

Are you still feeling the effects of Mercury Retrograde and the Lunar Eclipse from last month? The energy in the air is still kinda unstable. This week we have a solar eclipse with the new moon in Leo. So what does that mean? New beginnings, abrupt endings, things changing, unexpected situations. It’s a mixed bag of tricks really.

New moon in Leo on August 11th

The Leo sign is all about confidence, loyalty, love, creativity, passion and pride. They also tend to be a little selfish. This will serve you well right now to be selfish too.

So how does this relate to us during this new moon period?

How’s your self confidence these days? Are you feeling creative lately or maybe you have a creative project you’re thinking of starting? New moons are all about new beginnings. Get that project off the ground. It’s time, now. It’s time to dig deeper and do what it takes to muster up our self confidence. Did you lose it somewhere along the way? Perhaps due to a toxic relationship whether that be with an intimate partner or maybe even your boss or a family member?

Find your self confidence again. Now is the time. 

New beginnings and abrupt endings

It should be no surprise to you now that new moons are all about setting powerful intentions. What do we want? What did we want last new moon and are still waiting on it perhaps? Take this time to reevaluate your wishes. Does something need to change either in your desires or your manifesting ritual?

New beginnings are around the corner for everyone but with this comes abrupt endings. Things that no longer serve you may either drop to the wayside on their own or it could be you who decides it’s not serving you anymore and it’s time to step away from it and let it go.

Whatever the case may be, be prepared for surprises.

So many planets retrograde right now!

Mars, Mercury and Uranus. Now know that I am not an astrologer but I follow this closely. Why? Because eclipses, moons and planets retrograde are such important times for us and for the decisions we make and the way we talk to people and react to things. With so many planets retro right, don’t make hasty decisions! Keep a level head and your tongue behind your teeth, even though you really do want to lash out. Don’t. Nothing good comes from that.

All this action in the sky really just wants you to slow down and take a look at your life and yourself. Is it time to make a big bold move? Have you thought about it long enough or do you still have some more research to do on it before you take the leap?

Do what you have to do but this time is a selfish time. A much needed and well deserved selfish time. It’s mandatory and totally ok to be selfish. This is your life, not everyone else’s. Do what you feel is right for you!

New moon ritual

I do this every single new moon and you should too. You can read more about the ritual and how to do it here. I also do a full moon ritual which is almost the same as the new moon one with a few little tweaks. Here’s a great post about the full moon ritual. 

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5 Life Questions to Ask Yourself When Things Go Wrong

Ah, how we wish every day would be smooth sailing. Rainbows, lollipops, puppies and kittens. All the time. In my dream world it’s like that but … this is real life, and sometimes shit happens. Bad shit. I take these bad moments to pause and ask myself some important life questions. It is in the darkness that we will find the light we need.

Now I should clarify right now that for the purpose of this blog and message, I’m not talking about tragedies or death of loved ones. This is simply about all those annoying bullshit things that happen out of nowhere.

So when shit is going wrong for me, these are a few of the important life questions Iva stops to ask herself before she gets pissed off and flies off the handle because let’s face it, don’t we all want to scream and cry and throw things (or temper tantrums) when things fall apart?

5 Important Life questions

Is this gonna matter next week? Next month?

Like whatever bullshit thing just happened, will it still be horrific next week, or next month, or hell even tomorrow for that matter? Is it so bad that we’ll still be reeling in the aftermath in days to come? Granted, a job loss will probably still matter next week or next month (provided you haven’t found a replacement job yet) but always keep in mind everything happens for a reason though sometimes it takes a long time for the reason to reveal itself.

Every situation, every thing is temporary. Even your troubles. Remember that.

Is there something I need to learn from this?

Maybe there is a bigger lesson here for you. Maybe the Universe threw that curve ball at you, right then and there for one of two reasons: a) to slow you down or b) to smarten you up. And I don’t mean that in a mean way. Just maybe you were headed in the wrong direction and the Universe said “hey whoa Betty, not so fast” but you weren’t listening and then whammo. Shit happened.

Pay attention to signs. They are everywhere and they don’t always show up as feathers or butterflies.I think out of all the important life questions, this one might be the most important. Where’s the lesson?

Can I do something about it now?

Am I fully capable of stepping up to the plate, being confident enough in myself to rectify the situation at hand or do I just continue to freak out and act like a child having a tantrum? Am I strong enough to deal with this right now in a level headed manner?

You should try it. When you take a step back and think “ok can I do this”? and then you decide to handle it confidently, it will prepare you for future shit storms that occur. We can’t always act like 3 yr olds when things go wrong. Time to adult up.

Can I put it away for now?

Now by that I don’t mean brush it under the rug and pretend like it never happened. When shit things happen, they happen for a reason and we need to deal with them. But sometimes, taking a step back and not reacting right away is the best way to respond. Can you remove yourself from the situation and take another look at it from a different angle that perhaps may also help you learn and grow as a person?

You know, not acting in haste and being mature about it. Sometimes we need to just step away, think the whole thing through and then when we are calm and level headed, we can approach it in another way. When you ask your some of these important life questions, it really helps you grow.

How is this going to change my life?

How bad was the shitstorm that hit? Was it devastating or manageable? If I take the lesson I learned and apply it, how will my life change from this situation? If I don’t take the lesson, then what? What’s the absolute worst thing that will come from this situation?

I know when I lost a big job from one of my clients 2 yrs ago, though I panicked a wee bit, and I knew my income was taking a big hit, I also knew that it was a good thing for me because it allowed me more time to work on my own personal business. A blessing in disguise, it altered my life, and ya it was a big gouge in my income but I made it work.

These important life questions are just a small handful of ones to ask when shit goes wrong but ultimately, it’s how you handle and react to the situation that is going to make or break you. Just be cool peeps, be cool.

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Manifesting the Life of Your Dreams is Easier Than You Think.

Ah we’ve heard it all before a million times. If you want to manifest the life of your dreams, it starts with you. And a million other things you need to be doing. We set intentions, we pray with all our might, we feel it, believe it and want it yet it still doesn’t come.

So what went wrong? What step did I miss? I did everything the gurus told me to do but still nothing happened. You probably didn’t do anything wrong but what all those gurus forget to tell you is that to manifest your heart’s desire takes more than just setting intentions with intense emotions.

Manifest now dammit!

First of all, remember the Universe not only has a funny sense of humour, it also knows what’s good for you and what’s not. If you’re trying to manifest your ex back, the Universe will probably fight you the whole way on that one. He/she is not good for you and is an ex for a reason. Time to let it go.

But what about other things like

So how do we manifest those? It’s easier than you think.

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I’m going to share a very profound statement with you and I want it to really really sink in.

Everything is energy, good or bad.

So what exactly does that mean? It means that not only you have energy but the things you own and the space you live in has energy too. And yes, good and bad. Now knowing this, and before we get into this, I want you to take a super quick inventory of your space and your belongings.

Do you like/love them? Do they make you happy? Are you holding on to things from the past that have dark or sad memories but you can’t bear to part with them?

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Think about a toxic person for example. Sally is someone you don’t like to be around, no one does. A black cloud hangs over her head 24/7. She’s toxic and miserable. You avoid Sally at all cost.

Now let’s take a look at that ugly picture you got from Aunt Betty 5 yrs ago (that was gifted to you by Uncle Jerry). She was your favourite Aunt and she’s dead now but fact of the matter is, that picture is ugly and you really don’t like it. Negative energy. Period. The fact that she’s dead adds even more negative energy to it. Why do you want to remember Aunt Betty with an ugly picture that you hate?

Get me now?

Your space, your things.

Let’s go back to why we can’t manifest all the things we want. Let’s also go back to energy is everything. When you realize that your space has negative energy things in it, you will then realize that in order to bring about more positive things in your life, you need to get rid of the negative things in your life. 

But there’s more (and the Feng Shui geek in me kicks in). Have a good look around, again, at your space. Is it clean, pretty, does it speak peace, love and harmony to you? Do you love coming home after a full day of work or does your home cause you more stress because it’s in chaos and disarray? Is your home office a jumbled up cluster fuck of papers, garbage, files, boxes and all other things that wreak havoc on you?

If you’re wondering why you can’t manifest the things you want, it’s time to take a deeper look into your personal space. There is so much more to manifesting than just writing out intentions and sending them out with the new moon or the Angels. If you don’t understand the simple and easy practice of Feng Shui, you just may never get the things you want. Trust me on this one.

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