You Can’t Be Happy All the Time (and it’s ok to not be ok)
Last Updated on 1 year by Iva Ursano
Permanent happiness doesn’t exist. Do you ever just run into someone somewhere and they just always seem to be happy and then you think “wow Sally is always just so happy”. She’s not. Maybe when she’s out in public she is, but behind closed doors, she’s not. You can’t be happy all the time. And that’s ok.
I’m probably one of the happiest people you will ever meet. Despite the ridiculous upbringing I had and all the adversities in my life, I’m usually pretty darn happy.
You could say I’ve been through some terrible stuff. Whatever. We all have stories. Some break us, some make us. Mine made me the warrior I am today and I’m awfully proud of the person I’ve become because of my past.
Anyway, that’s not what this piece is about.
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You can’t be happy all the time
So being a personal development blogger, my one main goal is for everyone to be happy and live a life they deserve, one of crazy ridiculous joy. When we are happy, we can bring cheer to others and then make the world a beautiful place.
I know, a lofty goal. I have high hopes.
Over on my Facebook page, Amazing Me Movement, (you should really check out my page, it’s super cool) I share inspirational posters all.damn.day. I find them, read them, create them, share them, live them, breathe them, every day all day. That’s what I do.
I know, fun life, right?!
So you would think that since I’m surrounded by all this motivation, cheer and inspiration, I’d be happy 24/7. Nope, not even close.
To think we can be happy all the time is ridiculous. You can’t. No one can. If anyone tells you they are happy all the time they’re lying.
You can’t be happy all the time. It’s practically impossible!
I know when to stay home!
When I go out into town, I’m usually smiling. I love this town and the people. I mean, I pretty much live in paradise, how can you not smile so much? One day a friend said to me “I think you’re phony, you can’t be happy all the time”. I had to laugh.
(I love my friends here, they’re so honest.)
I explained to him I’m not happy all the time, but when I’m out I am. If I’m miserable or cranky I stay away from people. If I’m sad I do one of two things (or sometimes both)
- 1) I stay home and cry all day or
- 2) I drive down to the lake and sit by myself and process the crap that’s going on in my head (and cry some more).
No, I’m not happy all the time. None of us are!!. We are ‘gifted’ with many other emotions. Anger, hurt, sadness, grumpiness, frustration and a few others. It’s important to embrace all those emotions, learn from them, deal with them and move on.
“You cannot protect yourself from sadness without protecting yourself from happiness.” Jonathan Safran Foer
Happiness is a choice. We don’t willingly choose to be angry or frustrated or hurt. Stuff just happens and our first reaction can be any one of those. When something bad happens you don’t automatically react with happiness. Let’s get real here.
However, you can certainly turn a negative into a positive and then carry on the rest of your day in joy. Yup. You sure can. But to tell someone you are happy all the time? Sorry. I don’t buy it. Stop pretending you have your life together and it’s perfect.
It’s a lie.
Actually, many people who pretend to be happy all the time are suffering with anxiety and/or depression. If you are one of those people, please know there is help available! Now I’m saying you should seek counseling but, maybe? I mean, just be open to it.
Check out the amazing people at online-therapy.com.
Stop pretending to be happy all the time
What do you think that pretending to be happy 24/7 is going to do for you? Do you think people will respect and admire you more? Do you want people to secretly envy you because of this facade you keep displaying? Do you think people will want to be like you because it appears your life is so perfect?
Newsflash for you. None of that will happen. We can see right through you. Mm hmm. You’re not only lying to us but you’re lying to yourself. You’re pretending to be someone and something you’re not.
Stop doing that. Just be real. It’s ok to not be ok all the time.
We’d like you even more if you fessed up.
Peace and Love
xo iva xo
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