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8 Signs It Really is Time To Just Let Go and Move On.

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When is it really time to get out of that relationship? Like how long do you let it go on and on for until you finally have had enough and finally move on and let go? I’ve held onto relationships for way longer than I should have just in hopes that surely it will get better.

We all think like that, right? He or she will smarten up OR maybe it’s you that needs to smarten up. Who knows really and, quite honestly, it’s not my business but you know something has got to give. So how do we know when it’s time to get out then?

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Hanging on to toxic relationships

My last relationship was a real eye-opener for me. I hung on for SO long and it was absolutely ridiculous BUT I have to tell ya, to be honest, it sure taught me a lot about myself.

Maybe I was supposed to hang on for so long in order for me to grow?

It’s anyone’s guess really but I’m kinda glad I did because the person I am today probably would never have emerged unless I had those lessons. I put up with a lot and I imagine he did too. I am not perfect by any stretch. I think we both hung on for the same reason.

But the day came and I knew it was time to move on and let go of this.

And then came the signs it was time to move on

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I was clinging on hoping that it was going to get better and kept ignoring the warning signs to move on.

Eventually, all the little signs were starting to add up. The signs showing me to the door. The only difference this time is that I was actually following them. Here were my signs.

8 warning signs it’s time to move on and let go

1 Rudeness was becoming more frequent.

I mean really rude. Like saying rude things to me that you would only say to someone you really didn’t like. You know the stuff you blurt out to some jerk who cut you off on the road while you’re driving. Ya, stuff like that.

If you or your partner is doing this, stop. Just stop now. It’s mean and hurtful.

2 Are you ignoring me again?

That was up there on the list. Why would you want to ignore someone you live with, claim to love and claim to be best friends with? I don’t get that.

I think for me, being ignored is one of the most hurtful things you can do to me. Don’t I matter? Don’t you care?

If your partner is purposely ignoring you (which is a control thing) please know that’s disrespectful, mean, rude and a manipulator tactic.

You might like my latest video on my YouTube channel Women Blazing Trails about how to leave an abusive relationship.

3 Bullying isn’t just in the schoolyard anymore.

Bullying is for cowards and jerks. Period. If your partner is a bully he/she needs to know that this is abusive behaviour (yes it is) and they either need to seek help and get to the bottom of why they are bullies, or you can together get counselling but if those aren’t options, well…

The next thing to do is pack your stuff, move on and let go…

I’m no relationship expert, please know that, but one thing I do know and stand behind is that no one has the right to mistreat you. If outside help isn’t an option for your partner or for you together as a couple, then just leave.

4 Scared to talk about some things.

You know that if you bring up a certain subject again it’s going to be a huge argument again. But it’s not just like family dinners, it’s more serious and more often.

Seems these days you can’t really bring up too much without your partner losing their marbles.

When you have reached a point where trying to discuss anything civilly is a disaster, it might be time. What’s the point in staying in a relationship when you can’t discuss things rationally like adults and you’re afraid all the time.

What’s the point??

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5 Many things are starting to become less pleasant.

Things like shopping for groceries, road trips, maybe even sex. There is either usually an argument or it just simply isn’t pleasant for whatever reason.

For me, shopping started becoming a nightmare. It was his way, he bought what he wanted, he never walked beside me, always ahead of me, it was horrible…which leads me to #6.

6 Walking ten steps ahead of you.

This falls in the rudeness category too but it really is a combination of many things I think:

  • it’s a power trip thing,
  • it’s super ignorant,
  • it’s a control thing,
  • it’s belittling
  • and mean.

I can really go on and on here but this, for me, was the meanest thing he used to do. I got so tired of feeling like that little person.

7 I don’t think I like you, really.

Love and like are both kinda necessary to have in a relationship. When I got to the point where I didn’t even like him anymore, I knew it was time to move on and let go of this toxic relationship.

I loved him when he was on his best behaviour but really despised him when he was a jerk, which happened more than I would have liked near the end. I simply didn’t like him. I had to go.

8 Giving the third degree

Omg.! When you have to start the 3rd degree, give it up. If it’s that bad that you have to ask a million questions every time they step foot in the door, leave, just go, like right now. You have no trust and I seriously doubt you ever will.

That’s what happened to me? I was the one with a million questions because I didn’t trust a single thing he did. I already knew he lied to me on many occasions. Having to live like this giving him the 3rd degree was harmful to me and him.

It was downright pathetic. That’s no way to live.

This is a great article on relationship anxiety!

The Main Cause of Relationship Paranoia (and how to fix it!)

Moving on from someone you love

Listen, I totally get how hard this is to do. Trust me. I’ve had to do it quite a few times in my life. These signs happened to be in my last relationship and were the catalysts for me to finally move on.

Moving on from someone you love can completely suck the life out of you. There were certainly days my heart ached so bad I wanted it to just all end. You feel like you don’t want to go on anymore.

Trust me, I know how hard it is.

But you have to trust that it’s for your own good and there are way better things ahead for you. I promise there is.

Is it time for you to let go and move on?

Do you recognize any of these signs and maybe counselling isn’t an option anymore or never was or who knows really? Mine lasted two sessions in counselling and declared “let’s just settle this at home with a bottle of wine”

Yup, that’s great. It was pathetic.

Letting go of an ex is exhausting, long, sad and liberating. You have to decide that you need to do this and make all the necessary changes in your life in order to move on.

If you are in a relationship that has any of these signs, you already are alone and unloved. You deserve so much more. Really. Get out.

Yes, it’s hard to just pick up and leave but it’s not impossible either. A happier life awaits you on the other side.

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19 Responses

  1. #6….he did that to you, too? I hated that! And the shopping…ugh. He would stand at the checkout counter scrutinizing everything I put in the cart. And I thought I was the only one…wow.

    1. Oh Gina you are definitely not the only one! So many of us out there probably who just don’t say anything. So glad to be out of that relationship I tell ya. Thanx for dropping your comments here. I appreciate you :)

  2. Eye opening and ??Thanks for sharing your experience ❤???

    1. Thank you for your comment Maria and I’m glad you liked the blog. I like to share my experiences in hopes that I can maybe give someone the push they need to live a happier life. :)

      1. I have been emotionally and mentally abused for the past 25 years. Every conversation ends in an argument. The longest that He has completely ignored me is 3 weeks. Every thing hurtful that he has done to me is always turned around to be my fault. I said/did it, not him! In the whole of 25 years he has said, “I’m Sorry “ twice. He ignored me for the last two weeks and gets mad last night because I wouldn’t have sex with him. Seriously! We have a 17 year old daughter that I had at the age of 40. He has told me that she is the only reason he has stayed with me. I became disabled 8 years ago at multiple health issues. During this time I still took care of her and our home. (Badly OCD) He told me then that I had become a sorry excuse for a wife and a mother. Yet he has left all the parenting to me. He says he doesn’t have time to parent. He has to work. My daughter now treats me like he does but complains because I won’t leave him

    2. Yes indeed this is happening in my life.. he smokes weed, watches porn.. hardly works.. and on top of that we’re married and have a 4 year old daughter.. he does not want me to tell anyone what he’s doing.. I think had enough of his nonsense

  3. He did some of these things and I did some of these things and the marriage finally ended. Oddly, it ended amicably. Probably because we both recognized that these signs.

  4. Having lived thru this and wife left me. I have done alot of soul searching. I realized how i did not notice things i should have but my add did not acknwlege or notice. I was rrying to work on different things than she was needing.I did not know. She was my heart and my center. I love her still today evwn after the expense and hurr of divorcing me. Not to mention the hurt to family after 20 plus years never saw it coming and no matter what I say or do she will not try to work on it.

    I have been trying but i am lost. Lost my heart. My best friend and my partner for our lives ahead. So so sad….

    It all.came down to misunderstandings. Me not knowing what she needed or was looking for. Learning how to communicate with the ADD running interferance. Frustration lead to arguments which led to more distance and lack of communication.

    1. This should be a time of reflection. It may just be that you need some time apart. This means work on yourself, improve were you may have your flaws. She may just come around.

  5. He ignoed me, but our relationship only on the entrent, also when i say( i miss you ) he didnt tell anything.. after 3 days, whithout talk ! Even single word.
    He regert before about several days before.. because he was far and didn’t contact with me, becuse he was busy! i try to belive him..lastly i did.
    .
    I think some time he dosnt love me. He act like that maybe becouse i have issue with my self esteem.
    He give me advice to leave him, but i refuse he told me like that because he thought that he is a bad person, especially with me, because i love him and he is not deserving me.
    .
    I feel that i am stupid enough to walk on the sharp way to getting love. He is the first and the only person who iam crying when i remembered him.. whithout reasons. Wealready sepearte 3 time before.. he hurt e it was not kindly separation. And he requested to help him to control his bad behavior!

    Even all of that, i belive on him, he will be great in future, better.

  6. Hey Iva!!!

    You are a life changer!! I’m so grateful to you!! Your energy is amazing !!

    Thank you !!!
    Deb

    1. Awe thanx for that!! You just made my day xoxox

  7. Thanks for great article. My feet are moving out the door and away from this toxic relationship, it helps to know your not alone when you start having doubts. Your right that being treated mean and disrespected and uncaring is not a healthy place to be.
    I’m done and taking my own path.
    Thx much ❤

  8. This is actually happening to me in a relationship right now. All of them except he doesn’t ignore me. Walking ahead of me and going through the door stunned me at first but then I just thought I was being selfish… I guess it’s time to move on.

    1. Yessssssss it’s time to move on unless you can voice your concerns and he understands and tries to be more respectful, otherwise, out the door !!!

  9. After 53 years of dealing with my husband, I have had enough.

    Thank you for sharing these guidelines.

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Iva Ursano is a retired hairstylist turned badass freelancer, who left behind 52 years of her life in Northern Ontario, Canada for a life of freedom, love and beauty in sunny Guatemala. She has two main purposes in life: feed hungry bellies and help inspire people to live a life of joy and love.

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