5 Questions to Ask Yourself Today (that will help you rethink your life).

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Seems we whiz through life with blinders on. Get up, go to work, come home, TV, back to bed, rinse and repeat. Sound like you? This was definitely me a few years ago. Mind you, I was in a relationship that I felt, at the time, I was stuck in (you are never stuck anywhere, but that’s another blog post). There were many questions I knew I had to ask myself to get some clarity on this life.

I had a life but it was boring as hell and I yearned for more. I desperately longed for more and I knew in my heart of hearts there WAS more. Somewhere out there, there was more. It was up to me to find it. So I started to ask myself some much needed questions.

I get that many of us are in jobs we really don’t like but we have to pay the bills, right?. I also get that many of us are in relationships that no longer offer any sort of fulfilment. So many of us just feel stuck (there’s that word again).

How many of you are sitting in your comfy recliner looking out the window with  a nice cup of tea, ok or a glass filled with wine, and wondering to yourself “is there more?”. Well there certainly is.  To find it is certainly not for the faint of heart.

If you are thinking to yourself that life has more to offer, here are some questions that maybe you should take some time to ask yourself to see if you are, indeed, ready for a new and exciting life. One filled with happiness, adventure, love and joy.

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself today.

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Am I happy enough right now?

By right now and by happy enough I mean,  with your work, your relationships, yourself, your surroundings. When you stop and take stock of everything in your life right now, are you happy? Is there room for improvement? Can something go to make room for more goodness in your life? Don’t be afraid to take inventory to see what’s ok and what’s gotta go.

Am I doing enough? 

Enough for yourself. Can you dream bigger, can you take more chances, are you giving back to the world and the community and people? Can you do more for the people around you or maybe even your local homeless shelter? Is travel on your mind? Maybe some ziplining adventures? Are you doing enough in your life for you and the people around you?

Am I ever going to realize this dream? 

You have a dream inside of you that is slowly dying. Every now and then you bring it to the surface, look at it, pet it and put it back in the depths of your soul and your heart. You long to live it but………….but what? Why haven’t you? What are you afraid of? Life? Living? Failure? Success? Just do it, whatever it is that you want to do, go do it.

What am I missing? 

What ARE you missing? Thrills, adventures, love, freedom, peace, joy, happiness any or all of the above? Did you know that all that wants you too? Is there a place you want to go see, a car you really want to drive, a picture you want to paint? Is there an anxiety, a tugging in your heart that is saying “Hey come one, let’s do this!!”?

Could I do this? 

Do you desperately want to leave a job, spouse, friendship, whatever, but are really unsure? You’re not sure if you can make it on your own. You’re not sure if you have the balls to leave. You’re just scared of leaving and scared of life after you leave. So many unknowns. So much fear. So much overwhelm.

You can:

  • do
  • be
  • have

whatever you want. Really. The only thing standing in your way of a dream life is you. Sorry, yes I said it. YOU are in your own way. Your fears will stop you every time!

You know, this is the only life you have here. One chance. That’s it that’s all. How do you want to live it? In fear, sadness, in a comfort zone and full of “I wish”es or one of ridiculous joy, because when it comes right down to it, that’s what we’re all here for anyway. A life of ridiculous joy. Go live it.

Who’s up for ziplining this weekend?

Peace and Love

Iva

 

10 Clear Signs it Was Time For Me to Wake the F**k Up.

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  Have I really been sleeping for all these years? Probably. I mean, maybe not in a complete life coma but pretty close.  I sit here and type this and realize my whole life is a haze, a blur. All 53 years of it. What on earth have I been doing all this time? But most importantly, why did it take me this long to wake up? I used to remember hearing people say life begins at 50 and wondered what that meant. I totally get it now. Life really does begin at 50. I went through a whole lotta shit (and good stuff too!!) for the first 50 years of my life. It was colourful to say the least.  And honest to God, I hit 50 and my first thought was “what the fuck am I doing?” It was time to wake up.  I took inventory of my life and these things flashed by. Signs that it was time to wake up.
  • You’re probably more than halfway through life. This was a big one for me. Omg. More than half of my life is gone. What have I been doing? Well, living actually, but more like learning and preparing me for the next half of my life, I like to think anyway.
  • There are so many more things I want to do. Travel, write books, speak in public. I had a list as long as my arm and I hadn’t even knocked off a fraction of it. I had to get cracking at that.
  • I have a purpose and I need to start living it.  No no no, not this girl. Not any of us really, but that’s how we live. We wake up, go to work, pay bills and die. We have so much more to do than that. You know that.
  • I was stuck and frustrated. I felt this anxiety inside of me that kept poking at me. Almost wanting to scream at me, “hey lady, wake up!! You got shit to do. What on earth are you waiting for”?
  • I was tired of just existing. I wanted to live. There’s a life to live and I was just existing. There was a life buried in my dream of dreams and I needed to unleash it. Live it, see it, taste it, feel it. It was dying to get out.
  • There’s a free spirit inside that needs to be freed. I could feel her. Why was I keeping her locked up inside? A spirit inside of me that was crying, I could almost hear her moaning in anguish, wanting to be freed. I had to let her escape and live.
  • The world needs me. I don’t mean this in an egotistical way. I mean the world is in desperate need of healers, lovers and kind people and I was one of them. Why was I not sharing all that with the world? The world needs me.
  • I don’t want to die with regrets. I can’t and won’t be 80 years old, lying in my death bed and thinking “damn I wish I would have….”. I don’t want to be that person. I refuse to be that person.
  • You only get one shot. This is it. You’re not going to get another chance to do shit if you didn’t do it while you were alive.  Iva, what on earth are you waiting for? Stop pretending and practicing. Get out and live.
  • Being happy is my birthright and it’s time to start being. Happiness has been inside of me all this time, also screaming to get out and be released and experienced. I had been miserable for many many years. I did whatever I felt I had to do to get to that place of happiness and man, it was worth it.
So much inside of me woke up. There were people to see and love, joy to share, love to spread, smiles to see and a beautiful life to live. At 50 years old, it was time to do it. It was finally time to wake up and I have never been happier in my life, ever. (ok well maybe except the day my kid was born) Shit, I must have overslept. What time is it?? Do you need a kickstart in getting your life back on track? Maybe you’ve lost your mojo or you feel hopeless and helpless? Please check out my new self help guide eBook From Hell to Happiness. Click here for more info! Peace and Love Iva

5 Ridiculously Simple Ways to Become a Freelancer.

If I had known 10 fucking years ago how easy it was going to be to become a freelancer well, geez. I would have started way back then. Shoulda coulda woulda didn’t. I know now and man, let me tell ya, what a sweet life. I can’t even believe this is my life on any given day. No really.

I wake up, look over my balcony at volcanoes and a lake and I’m surrounded by lush mountains and butterflies and hummingbirds and oh……..my ………..God, pinch me I must be dreaming. And it’s nice and warm, every day. Every single day. Not scorching hot, just nice and warm.

You see, becoming a freelancer allowed me to do two things I always wanted to do:

  1. Quit my shit job as a hairstylist in a salon (run by the spawn of Satan) in a mall, and
  2. Leave my snowy home back in Northern Ontario, Canada and take my few belongings and my money machine, er, I mean my laptop and plant my sun loving ass in Guatemala.

How did this even happen? Sometimes I still sit and think, “wow that happened fast” but wait, how on earth did that happen so fast? I mean it seems like just yesterday I was holding a pair of shears in my hand and solving Sally’s problems while cutting her hair. And here I am now, sitting in a treehouse in Guatemala in shorts and a tank top (meanwhile back home it’s -25?) So how did this happen, I mean really?

Like this:

I did some poking around.

I mean, good God, the internet is fantastic! What are people doing? How are they doing it? What do I have to do to be like them (well not exactly like them but like them). There were writers and virtual assistants and graphic designers, book cover designers, editors. Omgosh the possibilities were ENDless! Pages and pages and sites and sites full of jobs and ideas. Where the hell have I been?

What am I good at?

Do you have talents that you can actually monetize? Who knew you could get paid to write? I had no clue. I write and write and people will actually pay me to do that? Geezus. Sign me up. A little more poking around and I found out that I needed to start writing for free for awhile. Cool. I can do that. I don’t mind that at all. Maybe the rules are different for other gigs but I doubt it. Go poke around. It’s kinda fun actually.

Be prepared for rejection.

Ok wait, I should rephrase that and say make sure you have thick skin. As you submit free stuff, not everyone is going to accept it. (oh wait, ok this doesn’t really qualify as a way to become a freelancer, more like a warning) All this rejection is really good for you (ya right). No really. It makes you practice and perfect your craft so somebody really big will hire you (which is what happened to me, yippee!!)

Free gigs + persistence=jobs.

Keep sending free gigs to prospective clients. You have to be really persistent and determined here. Like don’t get frustrated and give up and I know you’re going to want to. Please don’t. Keep at it. You are good at what you do. Practice, get better, keep sending your stuff for free, get your name out there, connect and then whammo. You will land a job or two. If you’re lucky it might be the big break you have been looking for (I wasn’t that lucky right away).

Write it out.

Your goal, your dream, your desire, whatever the hell it is you want. I had it written out on a big neon pink bristle board on my dining room wall *Retired from my day j.o.b. by July of 2015 and a full time freelance writer*. Guess what? It actually happened, just like that.

By July I handed in my resignation at the salon I worked at. What freedom. I saw that date on my board every single day. I looked at, felt it, believed it, damn I could almost smell it I wanted it so bad. Write it out and look at it. Every single day!!

See how easy that is? Really. That’s all it took. Determination, a dream, a desire and patience. My freelancing career has been good to me and I have one steady client that I absolutely adore. My work now involves some social media managing (you pick up new skills along the way, right?) and it has offered me a life of freedom. I am pretty much free to work anywhere in the world I want, which is exactly what I wanted. My destination of choice was Guatemala. Who knows where next year will have me travel to.

So tell me, how bad do you want to be a freelancer and live the life of your dreams?

Hey, excuse me, could you please pinch me again? Just to make sure this really is my life.

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Peace and Love

Iva

5 Tips to Manifesting Love, Money and Anything Else You Desire!

See how I slipped the word almost in there. I would rather be safe than sorry. I don’t need anyone coming back to me and say “Hey, that manifesting shit didn’t work for me, you’re a liar”. Eek, that would horrify me if anyone did that. I don’t want to give anyone any false hope. I’m no manifesting guru or anything crazy like that. I just want to talk a bit about how I learned to manifest almost everything I want and I’m going to share my 5 tips on how you too can manifest love, money or anything else.

Now I say almost because I have yet to manifest the love of my life yet. I think I still may be feeling a bit of resistance to that. I think I’m ready, no I’m not, I think I’m ready, no I’m not. This battle goes on all the time for me. It’s brutal. I never know which voice to shut up. They both make perfect sense.

Anyway enough of my love life or lack thereof.
I’m getting really good at this manifesting thing. So good actually it kinda scares me. Scares me in a freaked out kind of way. Here are a few examples of some of the things I manifested.

• Retired from my regular day job in July 2015
• 3 week trip to Costa Rica
• Living in Central America for the winter
• The SUV of my dreams (that was a lifetime ago)

These are just a handful of things that I actually manifested. It still freaks me out to this day that I manifested all that and then some. Since I’ve become this crazy super manifestor, my life has literally taken a 360 turn. Some days I barely recognize myself. It’s that crazy.

Ok enough, tell me how to manifest money and love.

I almost feel like I sound like an infomercial. Who remembers those? “But wait, if you order 2 right now, I’ll throw in 5 more. But first you have to hear my secret.”

Well there really is no secret. Not for manifesting greatness into your life anyway. I don’t think so. I attract what I want or what I think about or direct all my attention to. Thoughts, right?  But wait. I always make sure my thoughts about whatever I want are happy, clear, focused and are for my higher good. No shit thoughts, only good thoughts.
Let me share a few tips with you that really help me nail down what I want.

I want it so bad I can taste it

I mean, I feel this thing so passionately it consumes me. I dream about it, talk about it, think about all day every day, like I already have it. It’s mine.

I write it out

On a huge mofo neon bright bristle board and tape that somewhere I see it every single day. I read it, I touch it, I write it again. I look at it all the time.

I talk about it all the fucking time

To anyone who will listen. The more I talk about it, the more I believe it is coming and the faster it comes. Talk about it all the fucking time. Like you own it. Period.

I feel like I already have it!!

Remember it’s yours already. How does it feel? You are super excited and full of butterflies and giddy with excitement and all those other overwhelming amazing ridiculously crazy feelings.

Figure out how I’m gonna get it

Now before I go on here, many of the readers here who believe in the work of The Secret and The Law of Attraction will probably say you’re not supposed to figure out how, the universe will do that for you. Sure it will, but you have to have some sort of idea of what you need to do in order to manifest this. For example, if you want a new job, you can’t just sit in your room, never talk to anyone or go out and expect a job to land at your doorstep. You have to get out and network and put yourself out there. That’s what I believe and we all have our own opinions of this.

What do you think you have to do in order to manifest what you want, in a reasonable manner that is for the best for everyone? Start researching and looking into steps you must take and start taking them.

When you want something bad enough, you feel it, believe it, see it, taste it and dream it, you can have it but careful what you wish for. Some things aren’t good for you or in your best interest. You’ll find that out quickly if you are manifesting from a place of desperation or a place of love. Trust me on this one.

I think I’ll manifest a margeurita this weekend.

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Peace and Love

Iva