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How To Change Your Life in Just a Few Simple Steps

Last Updated on 4 years by Iva Ursano

I appear to be a bit of a brave bad*** to a lot of people and for the most part, I guess I kinda am. After years of abusive relationships, financial struggles and the constant battling within myself to find out who Iva is, and what she wants, I am finally living life on my terms and it’s pretty epic. If you want to know how to change your life and live an amazing life like I do, you’re in the right place!

I used to be one of those people who whined and complained about everything in life. I’m not that person anymore. My life was horrible and I hated every bit of it.

But now…I rarely complain and I really don’t have too much to whine about these days either. Yes, life is pretty awesome.

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I underwent some changes in life that scared the poop outta me

After I left my abusive relationship in April of 2012 ( I think that was the year) I crashed into rock bottom really hard. My whole world collapsed and I seriously did not want to live anymore.

I finally got tired of crying and whining and knew I had to do something drastic to pick myself up out of rock bottom. So I did big bold ridiculously ballsy things. I wasn’t playing mediocre anymore.

That never worked out for me and here I was at 52 years old thinking ‘oh man something really big has to happen’. And it did.

Making life changes that shake you to the core

I was making life changes and they were shocking even to me. I’ve always been a somewhat spontaneous throw caution to the wind kinda gal but kind of on a small scale. I didn’t want small scale anymore.

I wanted bold and big. I reinvented my entire life, career, circle of friends, and location. I traded in 25+ years as a hairstylist, became a freelance writer and moved to a third world country.

So ya, you can see I was making life changes that were off the charts. But I had to. I had been doing nothing but existing for some 52 years and I was so tired of that. I didn’t want the next 50 years to be a repeat.

I wanted so much more.

There’s nothing much special about me.

Now you’re probably thinking that I’m this crazy world traveler with lots of money and tons of support and friends around the world. Negative. Not even close. I’m an every day person, just like you. Up until a few years ago, I had a normal day job.

I went to the cheapest gym back in my home town ($20/mth kinda cheap), I eat peanut butter and honey sandwiches with bananas. I watch 3D minion movies. Some days, I never get out of my flannel pj’s.

Yes. There’s nothing special about me and I’m not much different than you. The only difference is that I have learned to face my fears and try new things. But let me share asecret with you about facing fears.

It’s not easy. At all. Many many times, right before I’m about to do something crazy, my thoughts go something like this…”Omg this is ridiculous”, “what are you doing?”.

You might really love this mini self help eBook I wrote about How to Face Fears. Click here to grab your copy now or the image below.

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So you want to turn your life around?

If you want to know how to change your life, I mean really turn your life around, face your fears.

I know I’ve written about this before but I want you to get it! Understand it. There have been many times where I was ready to throw in the towel and say ‘to heck with this’. I ain’t doing this.

But that attitude isn’t for us anymore. We ain’t playing small. We’re pulling up our big girl/boy panties and grabbing on to life and whipping those reins. Who’s with me?

How to improve your life painlessly

People don’t understand that the easiest and most painless way to change your life is simply to decide you are tired of the crappy way your life is going now. You have to stop and take a look at the life you have now.

Ask yourself some hard questions like:

  • am I happy?
  • does this make me happy?
  • can I live like this much longer?
  • who’s life is this anyway?
  • what do I have to do to change my life?

Once you have some answers to those questions then the next step is to make the decision that you are ready to make some life changes and GO!!! Take little baby steps in the direction of your new life.

Books that will change your life

I did a lot of reading and watching YouTube videos, mostly all inspirational, positive thinking and motivational stuff. I grabbed and downloaded whatever I could afford and get my hands on. Even though I am kinda brave, I still sometimes needs to immerse myself in uplifting and empowering content.

It’s just the push that I need and you may need it too. Check out this article I wrote on some of the best self help books to help you improve your life.

6 of the Best Self Help Books That Will Totally Change Your Life

and check out these ones too:

The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein

You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation Strong, Your Vibe High, and Your Quest for Transformation Unstoppable  by Jen Sincero

Life changing events were freaking me out

It’s hard, it’s scary, it makes my tummy feel yucky, I feel overwhelming anxiety, I cry, I want to throw up, I want to curl up in a ball and hide from the world because fear says “You can’t do this, you’re not _____ enough” (you can fill in the blank).

And this emotional roller coaster always makes me want to stop. These emotions play chess with me. They want to beat me at another game.

I go through all that, still to this day. Every time I think I need to do something life changing I go through all those emotions, and you will too.

These emotions remind me that I am exactly where I am supposed to be and doing exactly what I meant to do. They help me grow into that bad*** girl. If I didn’t feel any of them, I wouldn’t be pushing the envelope and nothing would change. I would simply be existing, watching life pass me by.

No thanx.

If you feel these emotions, you are on the right track!!!

So I’m putting on my big girl panties again and this time I’m off to Mexico. More of the unknown stuff but it’s time to shake up my life again.  I don’t ignore the cries in my heart or the poking of my gut instincts (aka intuition) that tell me it’s time to change your life again. I have learned to listen to these feelings.

Steps to change your life for the better

You’re probably wondering where are the few simple steps on how to change your life right? I mean, after all, that is the title of the article. Here are the steps:

  • Change your attitude,
  • change the way you think,
  • change the way you look at life
  • stop caring what people think about your decisions in life.

See the pattern here? You must make the decision to change your life by changing your thinking.

Turn your negative attitude around into positive thinking. Feel and believe that your life will and can get better and it’s up to you to do just that. You have to not care or worry about what other people think.

This is your life, not theirs. You live it for you, not them. Capiche??

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  1. This post is so awesome, Iva.

    Loving seeing how you’re taking on fear and leaving fear in the dust:) What a great city to be in – it’s one of the oldest countries in Central America. I spent a few months in Nicaragua and loved it.

    You are a ghost, i mean fear-buster :)

  2. Hahaa cute Vishnu!! Maybe I’m a ghost buster too ;) Thanx for popping by. Always nice to see you here. I’m pretty excited. I actually had Nicaragua on my list but in the end chose Guatemala. I may end up there eventually anyway.

  3. Thanx Rev Jeremy! I’ll actually be helping out a minister there with a small mission. I’m excited!

  4. Hi, Iva
    Yet “Fear” holds people back from his destination and success. High-five to you that you win over the fear on your own. That power is solid.

    Why you choose Guatemala? how long will you stay there? I believe your adventures in there will enrich your life a great deal.
    Connect and share!
    May God be with you!
    – Stella

  5. Hi Stella thank you for dropping by! I chose Guatemala quite randomly actually. I will be blogging and still connecting while I’m there. Thanx! :)

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