How to Stop Worrying and Start Living the Life You Deserve

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I’m a dreamer. A big dreamer. Lemme tell ya though, dreaming big is scary. I dream of winters in hot tropical places (goodbye Sudbury winter!!), traveling the world, burning up the highway in a hot convertible, having a drop dead gorgeous husband (hello Johnny Depp), standing on a big stage talking to thousands of people.

Yup, it’s scary to dream big and we worry too much about it but I’ve discovered the #1 way to stop your worry and fear and live my life!

 

Our dreams scare and worry us!

 

Dreaming big is scary. I’m not quite sure who coined the phrase “If your dreams don’t scare you, they aren’t big enough” but I totally live by that saying now. You see, I don’t dream big just for the hell of it. Nope not this girl.

I dream big with full intention of seeing my dreams come to fruition. Yup. Each and every one of them. Why not? I mean, what else am I going to do with this big beautiful life of mine besides chase dreams?

But if you’re anything like me, or like I used to be, every time we have a big dream we start to worry that it’s too big, too ridiculous or unattainable.

We worry ourselves to death about this dream or goal that we have and the end result is that we put it on the back burner because we don’t think we can reach it.

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The one way to stop worry

Fear is crippling!

 

We waste so much of our time living in fear and worrying so much about stuff that it’s almost ridiculous. Many of these fears are ingrained at an early age.

Our parents could have warned us about something that may have been dangerous or too risky to do so we never did it. We may have failed at something in life once or twice and because of that, we have totally given up on trying new things.

Life is about learning and growing. How will you grow and evolve if you stay in your comfort zone and waste all your time worrying about stuff that probably won’t even happen!?

As I started on my personal development journey a few years back I ran across some valuable tools and eBooks that totally changed my life and my mindset.

Awesome eBooks on how to claim your power and stop the vicious worry cycle

 

Many of us have either heard of or read The Secret by Rhonda Byrne. Excellent book. I’ve read it a couple of times. The Magic was just as good, as was The Power. Kudos to Rhonda for these inspirational and motivational masterpieces!

Here’s the full collection of her amazing books. I’ve read 3 of them and just may get one more soon!

The Secret Series-4 Book Collection

They opened my eyes to dreaming and believing that I can have anything in the world that I want and know that I deserved it all. That was ground-breaking for me. I deserve it? Really? Outstanding!!

And so it began. My dreams started small and I realized that I was actually manifesting the things that I wanted. The little things. I was asking the Universe for things, putting my intention out there and they were happening for me.

Then my dreams got bigger. And bigger. And then it almost became an addiction (is that even possible?) As my dreams got bigger, my faith started to waiver a bit. That’s bold, Iva. That’s too big, Iva. What on earth are you thinking, Iva?

 

The one way to stop worry and fear

I had to let go of worry and change my mindset

 

Yes my dreams got bigger and I got scared. How the heck am I gonna pull this one off? I would tell my friends about one dream and they would just give me one of those “yes of course” looks and change the subject. No one would believe that I can do this.

If they don’t think I can, then why should I think I can?

Yup I was starting to get scared. I would start to worry even a little. But then…..

Boom!!

I had an A-HA moment. Why can’t I do this? Why can’t I have that? The Universe and God said that I am deserving of all my heart’s desires. God said I can have anything I want as long as I stay in faith.

Where’s your faith, Iva? Dream BIG for goodness sake! Your dreams are free. I had to learn to stop worrying about everything and just let goooooooo!

Yes my dreams are big!

Scary, yes, but free! Now don’t get me wrong. It’s not like I’m some sort of crazed thrill seeker always pushing the envelope and living on the edge. Not quite.

But I do like to think outside the box and say “Why not?”

There’s this huge part of me that’s longing for excitement and adventures. There’s also another part of me that absolutely does NOT want to be old and full of regrets. No way.

 

Learning to face fears, stop worry and take a leap of faith

 

Lemme share a story with you.

I’ve always wanted to write a book. I had never written a book in my life. The only thing I had ever written was letters to ex boyfriends who behaved badly.

But I knew without a shadow of a doubt I wanted to write a book. So I did.

I didn’t care if anyone would like it, read it, buy it or whatever. The fact that I finally checked off one dream on my dream list was good enough for me. I took a leap of faith and did it.

I put worry and fear to the side and you know what happened? I felt absolutely freaking amazing that I accomplished this! There was no regret. No fear. No worry.

I just did it. So can you!

I went on to write a couple more books after that too! You can see them here:

Iva’s Awesome eBooks!

How to train your brain to stop worrying

 

That’s the key right there. You have to train your brain to stop worrying and start thinking of possibilities. You have to let go, let God and have faith.

I know, easier said than done. If everything was easy everyone would be doing it.

I’ve learned that I can’t control everything and I don’t have to control everything. There are powers, much higher powers, in the heavens and the Universe that have everything under control for me.

Finding the strength to have faith in that took some time for me and I may not quite have 100 % total faith yet but I’m close. When I feel my faith wavering I am reminded to *let go and let God*. When I do this, I take a deep breath and relax. He’s got this!

Don’t believe in God? That’s cool. Believe in the Universe then if you will. You have to know that everything is energy and whatever energy you are putting out into the Universe is coming right back to you.

If you put out worry, you’ll get back more things to worry about.

If you put out hope, faith, joy and love, well, you guessed it. You’ll get more of that good stuff come back to you.

See how this works? Isn’t it amazing!?

 

You have stop worrying about the things you can’t control

 

There are very few things we can control. Your mind is one of them. YOU have control over your thoughts and mind. Only you. You have to remember that the life you are living now, you have created with your thoughts.

As soon as you learn to control your mind and your thoughts, worry will take a back seat and you will finally start living the life you deserve. A life of inner peace, freedom, joy and abundance.

You’ll see. Trust me on this one.

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Iva

One way to stop worry

 

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I’ve tripped and skipped through life looking for my purpose, my passion, what’s going to rock my world and make me happy. What a journey it has been. My careers have been exciting, and boring, but they were exactly what they were supposed to be to get me to where I am today. From Waitressing/Bartending to Loans and Mortgage Officer (yup, boring) to Income Tax Corrector (again, boring), Fitness Instructor/Personal Trainer to Hairstylist, Correctional Worker to Feng Shui Practitioner. Colourful and completely fulfilling. The end result? A passionate writer and blogger that has a huge treasure chest full of really cool stuff to write about!

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4 Comments

  • Hi, Iva. I’m right there with you. I’m a big dreamer. I started picking images for my vision board again. I see crazy stuff in my dreams. I know my husband thinks I’m nuts and it’s a matter of time before I’m going back to trying to find a job to make ends meet. This month I asked for $600 just to cover my ends for the bills. That’s it. I already made $32 and so change for writing a blog post. I don’t know where the rest is coming I just know it’s on its way. I want to make 6 figures doing what I love which is writing. I’m with you and I’m watching The Secret again because I wanted to get myself ready. When I was really into all kinds of things started happening, but I lost my way after a relationship went south. Never again, you’re not crazy, and neither am I. What good are dreams if they don’t scare you? The nightmare is waking up to the same dull existence day after day after day.

    • Atta girl Bonnie!! I always believe that things are always working out for me, no matter what, and they do!! Like magic :) xoxo

  • I loved this article and would love to pass it on to someone I know who would probably get some help from reading it; however, I would never pass on anything that had disgusting language in it. Why would anyone who is intelligent enough to write such a wonderful article have to describe a fearful emotional response as “F—ing scary”, instead of just plain scary, or frightfully scary, or any other descriptive combination of words that would decently describe the feeling in a way that didn’t appear to come from a dirty gutter?

    • Thanx for your lovely comment Theta and I’m glad you liked the article. Did you know that intelligent people are the ones who swear the most? That’s what sets us apart from the rest ;) If I used the words you suggested then I wouldn’t be writing authentically and that’s what life is all about. Being yourself, loving who you are, not having to pretend you’re someone you’re not to make everyone else happy.

      Your opinion matters Theta, unfortunately not to me.

      Dirty gutter? smh.

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