15 Signs of Disrespect in a Relationship (you can’t ignore!!)
So you’re in a relationship. It’s been a few weeks, months, maybe even years. Things seem to be going relatively ok for the most part but some things just don’t sit well with you. Recognizing signs of disrespect in a relationship can sometimes be kinda tricky.
We’ll address a few of those signs here and also talk about dealing with disrespect in a relationship.
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My husband/wife doesn’t respect me!
How many times has your best friend cried on your shoulder about this problem? Or maybe it’s been you doing the crying about your partner not respecting you. You’re not alone.
If you already know and feel that your husband/wife do not respect you then something must change.
One would think that having and maintaining respect in a relationship would be a no brainer. Unfortunately, such is not the case.
We all have to keep in mind that so many of us were raised in toxic environments and what may seem like chaos to you is perfectly normal for them. Many of us, also, have no idea what respect is, or we never received any. Respect is a tough beast for sure.
Dealing with a lack of respect in a relationship
For those of you who were raised with respect and value this trait, it can be tough af dealing with a lack of respect in a relationship, any relationship really, but especially with your spouse/partner.
To be honest and in my opinion, the easiest and best way to deal with disrespect in a relationship is to immediately address the issue and inform your partner that that behaviour is totally unacceptable.
Fighting or lashing back is not going to fix the problem.
They need to understand that what they said or did has hurt you or is a sign of disrespect, let them know how it made you feel and talk to them about it. If they argue back (every single time this happens) and it never gets resolved then you have a much bigger issue on your hands and will need to figure out for yourself how much more disrespect you are willing to tolerate in this relationship.
I gotta be honest here though. No one is entitled to treat you like crap or disrespect you so if this is a common occurrence you need to sit down with yourself and figure out why you keep letting this happen to you. You could very well be in a toxic relationship and getting out should your first priority.
We’ll discuss that more later on this article.
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What are signs of disrespect in a relationship?
If you see any of these signs of disrespect in your relationship, it’s time to get to work and address these as they come up. Remember no one is allowed or entitled to disrespect you. Ever. Many of these are huge red flags.
I’m no relationship expert but I know I deserve to be treated with respect and if the guy I’m dating shows any signs of disrespect, I’m out. I’ve come too far in my self love and self worth journey to let anyone crush me or stomp on my confidence, ever again.
If your boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t respect you, it’s time to do something about it. Period.
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15 signs of disrespect in a relationship
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Does your partner constantly judge and belittle you? Do they criticize you often with the intent to hurt you, not help you? Remember there’s a difference between constructive criticism and damaging criticism.
Is your partner easy to talk to when problems arise? Or do they shut down, not want to talk and not care about your feelings with regards to whatever issue is at hand? I get communicating our feelings can sometimes be difficult for some, but when it comes to communicating for a conflict resolution? That’s kind of important!
Lack of support, emotionally, professionally or otherwise
It’s important to have 100% support from your partner in all things in your life. If they show lack of support, or a rather ” I don’t really care” type attitude, then, well, they don’t really care and clearly don’t have your best interests at heart.
Me me me me
Is everything always about them and what they want/want to do with little to no concern about you, your interests and what you want to do? That screams narcissist to me and selfish. This person clearly only cares about themselves, not you.
Can your partner be trusted OR maybe they don’t really trust you even though you’ve given them no clear reason not to trust you? Trust is a big effin deal in a relationship and if they can’t be trusted or don’t trust you, the problem is bigger than you want to deal with.
I’ll do what I want
Is there something your partner has done numerous times that you have asked them not to do because you don’t like it? They keep doing it because they don’t care about your feelings. They do it because they only care about themselves.
Can I have your attention please?
Do you have his/her attention when you want to talk to them or do they seem totally uninterested in what you are saying? Are they too busy scrolling through Facebook while you are talking to them? Ya, that’s rude and disrespectful.
Sorry not sorry
Does he/she refuse to apologize for things they did that hurt you OR do they say ‘sorry but..’? They clearly have no respect for you or your feelings if apologies don’t come easily or are followed by a ‘but’. Also keep in mind, if they keep doing the same wrong thing over and over again they don’t really care that they are hurting you.
The best apology is changed behaviour. Remember that.
I’ll do what I want
Does your partner often do things without asking you to join them or if it would be ok to do it? Now I get we don’t need permission to do things but some things most certainly shouldn’t do without at least asking if it’s ok.
A public mockery
Does he/she pick on you/put you down/or make fun of you in front of friends or family? Oh I’m sure it’s all in jest right? Wrong. That is totally disrespectful. No one has the right to make a mockery of you in public.
Flirts with others in front you
No no no just no. Do they do this often? Totally disregard you and start flirting with other men/women at a party or club or wherever? This is a clear sign of disrespect in a relationship. Not to mention it’s rude!!
Does your partner often talk over you or interrupt you when you’re trying to get a point across or have a conversation? It’s frustrating as heck right? They do this because your words or feelings don’t matter. They need you to hear them and they want to be heard. What you have to say doesn’t matter at all to them.
To be honest, if you/they are always late there is a bigger problem but it also shows a lack of respect for your time or the importance of the event. Narcissists top this list of “I don’t really care what time I get there, they should just be happy I’m going”. People need to respect other people’s time as well.
Step away from your cell phone please
Ugh!! This is my number one pet peeve. Would you rather scroll Facebook/Twitter/Insta then talk with me? Seriously though! If your partner is always on their phone and totally ignoring you it shows your company means nothing to them.
They choose others over you
They always side with friends and family over you. They will also make plans with them without including you (or asking you) and will choose their activity over one you have chosen. This obviously shows you are second choice, an alternative.
More behaviours that ruin a relationship
These are only 15 signs of disrespect in a relationship but honestly there are probably a million more! Some other behaviours that ruin a relationship are:
- verbally/emotionally/mentally/physically abusive
Not to forget too that addictive behaviour can also ruin a relationship. Whether it be addiction to a drug, porn, gambling, alcohol or whatever. Some addictions are extremely crippling not only to the person with the addiction but to the other person in the relationship.
Remember we are not in relationships to suffer, be sad, be treated poorly or anything negative like that. If you think you are in a toxic relationship, do something about it! Either go to counselling or leave!
Yup that may sound harsh but always keep in mind, you are here for joy and happiness. Also keep in mind you can’t fix broken people. Only they can fix themselves, if and when they are ready to.
How to have respect for yourself
This is a tough one. I get it. Many of us have struggled all our lives to try to have respect for ourselves or even love ourselves. We have been in and out of toxic relationships all our lives because that’s what we attract and that’s all we know.
But when you learn to have some respect for yourself and start loving yourself, the people in your life will change as you change and grow. My self help guide From Hell to Happiness might help you with that. It’s my story about how I went from a horribly abusive and sad life to loving myself and finally being happy in my own skin.
I was in and out of toxic relationships my entire life until one day I shouted, “NO MORE” and my healing journey began.
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