You know, I’m a firm believer in talking to yourself. Me, myself and I have brilliant conversations all day long. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I talk to other people a lot throughout my day too but I really enjoy talking to myself. I believe in the power of self talk.
My inner talk used to be all negative. I had a hard time trying to say nice things to myself. I didn’t even know the power of positive self talk until a few years ago to be honest.
Sometimes I argue back to myself but I always win so it’s never really satisfying when we fight. It’s more of an ego thing I think.
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These days, most of my *in person* conversations go something like this:
- where the heck did I put my purse?
- omg I can’t believe I just did that.
- as if he said that
- should I buy another dress today?
But honestly, my favourite conversations with myself usually go something like this:
- your hair looks awesome today (it’s always about the hair)
- my God I’m beautiful
- I sure love my life
- I am in such a ridiculously good mood today.
Yup those are my favourite ones.
My self talk wasn’t always so positive
Me, myself and I really are best friends. We weren’t always though. Up until about 6 years ago, myself and I fought all the time. It was hell. Really.
Sometimes me and myself would get into some juicy arguments too. The struggle was real. Yup, for most of my life, the three of us could barely stand each other.
But about 6 years ago, we went on a major road trip. Myself resisted a bit because she knew what was coming. Me was a little apprehensive but willing nonetheless and I was very eager to take this trip.
Me, myself and I went on a road trip of a lifetime, literally, and came back with empty suitcases. Yup.
We dumped all our emotional trash. We had a bonfire and burned it all. We roasted marshmallows and drank tequila. We were free.
We learned the power of positive self talk
We learned how to not only deal with and get rid of the past and all the triggers, but we also learned how to have effective conversations among ourselves, our self talk, that would end on a positive note.
Yup. We had to learn all that and let me tell ya, that was hard to do. We had to reverse all the damage that was done when we were 13 years old. We had to forgive and release the trauma from between the ages of 25-45 (now that was really hard) and we had to protect ourselves from ugly green monsters.
We had to learn not only the power of positive thinking and talking but train ourselves on how to do it more and how to utilize more positive self talk.
How did we learn all this new stuff?
Through forgiveness and changing our conversations.
We went from
- *My God you’re stupid* to *Awe that’s ok, we’ll do better next time!* and,
- *Omg you aren’t as pretty as you think, look at how bad your skin is* to *You get more beautiful every day*.
4 Things to add to your daily self talk
So while you’re trying to retrain your brain to say only positive things, which I might add is hella hard and can be somewhat frustrating, here are 4 more things you should tell yourself daily.
It’s so important to switch off the negative self talk, shut it up, and start saying only positive things.
Now look, don’t get me wrong. I know life isn’t all rainbows, lollipops and unicorns. Sometimes life throws us some really sh*tty things. But the way you talk to yourself while you’re going through it will make or break you.
I’m gonna be ok
This may sound kind of lame at first but when you think about the times you stress for nothing, really, and continually say *oh this is bad* or *oh damn, we’re doomed* or whatever you’ll realize that you probably say that more than you think.
Start saying *It’s ok. Everything will be ok. Don’t worry. Take a deep breath and chill out* Really. Start saying those things lots. All the time. The power of positive thinking in this time will save you from a ton of grief
I can do this
Fear is a son of a gun. He’ll stop you dead in your tracks all the time. He comes up with some really stupid excuses all the time. He thinks you’re stupid, but you’re not.
It’s time to tell fear to take a hike and start telling yourself that you can do this. *I got this. I can deal with this. I can handle this no problem!* Give that ego of yours a big boost.
I am perfect just the way I am
Ok, I know that none of us are perfect, but man, do we need to beat ourselves up so badly all the time? Hell no.
There is nothing wrong with you. Each and every little thing about you is unique to you so how can it be anything but perfect? It’s perfectly you. Embrace every ounce of you.
I love this quote by Dr Seuss:
“Today you are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive, who is youer than you.”
Love yourself more
Like, look at yourself in the mirror daily and say “I love you!!”
How often do you do this? How many times do you either look at yourself in the mirror and say this or just randomly be walking through a room and tell yourself *I love you*?
I’m gonna guess you don’t do it hardly enough. Tell yourself this daily, many times. All the time. Sing it, shout it, whisper it, however you want to do it (mind you, singing it is really fun!), just do it.
The powerful effect this has is mindblowing. Trust me on that one.
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Your thoughts and words create your reality
No one wants to believe this but it’s so true. Remember one very important thing. You are not your past. You are no longer who you thought you were because so many people plugged negative thoughts in to your head.
You’re not that person anymore.
You’ve been beating yourself up for the last how many years now and look where that got you.
Try and start using more positive self talk and watch what happens.
You have to remember, always, that when you talk to yourself, guess what? You are the only one listening. Make the conversation a lovely one. Every time. The power of positive self talk will blow your mind. Trust me.
Peace and Love
xo iva xo