We need to know a lot of things. Well, I do anyway. Things like, why can’t chocolate just show up on my doorstep exactly when I need it, why can’t I have $1,000,000 in my bank account all the time and where the fuck is Mr. Right hiding out these days? There are some things women just need to know or maybe we already know them but we forgot?
But, is that just me, or..er?
Moving on…you know we get wrapped up in other people’s lives and often live vicariously through them. Not such a terrible thing if they live on the Fiji Islands and have hot men serving them all day. I’d be ok with that. But we forget a lot of other things, like we’re ok, we’re really ok.
I’ve compiled a little list of a few other things we tend to forget….in no particular order of importance, here ya go!
If you could see yourself through everyone else’s eyes….
You’d be astonished! Blown away even. People truly do admire you! They fucking love the hell outta you!! We are hard on ourselves and often think we are unworthy or not doing a great job or that we suck..whatever. You are the bomb. There is no one in the world like you!!
No one knows what they’re doing. We’re all just winging it.
Stop trying to pretend you got your shit together to impress people. Take the mask off, slowly, gently, easy does it now..ah there, the real you. Why do you we have to make people think we’re some kind of comic book hero that can leap tall buildings in a single bound bla bla bla…it makes you look ridiculous. Stop doing that. You don’t have your shit together, no one does and that’s ok!!!
You don’t need anyone to make you happy.
Or any thing or whatever. Having a new partner isn’t going to make you happy if you aren’t already happy with yourself. Until you can find some peace, love and joy inside yourself you will never find it. You will continually attract the opposite. Be happy with you first, and don’t need anyone to do that for you.
Jealousy makes you ugly.
Ouch. That hurt didn’t it? I never truly thought this until someone pointed it out to me and then I experienced a jealous person and my first thought was “oh ya, that’s ugly”. Jealousy is a negative emotion we feel towards another person because we don’t feel adequate with ourselves. Keep this in mind, you are probably jealous of Susan because she seems sweet. Susan is probably jealous of you because you’re a badass. See how what you are is enough? You’re welcome.
When someone says you’re beautiful, believe them.
Really. Believe them. Because you are beautiful. Not only that, people don’t just generally throw around compliments like confetti (though I wish they would) because for some of us, well, it’s just plain awkward. Next time someone tells you that, smile confidently (oh I know that’s gonna be tough for some of you) and say thank you with a proud beaming smile, ’cause girl, you are freaking beautiful!!
Stop giving too much of yourself to the wrong people.
You know what I’m talking about here. You desperately want that person to like you, want you, love you but they don’t deserve you. You keep chasing people who keep running. If they wanted you they wouldn’t be running. As a matter of fact, they’d be chasing you. If you’re looking for love and approval, look inside of you first.
Holding grudges makes you fat
There I said it. It makes you fat. Wanna know why? ‘Cause that’s some heavy shit those grudges. You keep carrying all those grudges from exes, old girlfriends, bosses, family members, etc. The more grudges you carry, the fatter you are. Let go of them and watch those pounds fall off. Trust me on this one. (you’re welcome again)
Do what makes YOU happy…
and fuck the rest. Ok that may sound a little harsh but hear me out on this one. We spend SO much time making everyone happy all the time and the only person who truly deserves happiness is you. Yes your kids need to be happy as does your partner, but wait, what about you? I get there’s a small level of sacrifice here sometimes but only sometimes. You don’t have to completely sacrifice your entire existence just to please everyone. Don’t you matter? Isn’t your own happiness important? Of course it is!! You are worthy!!
Wrapping this up, remember:
- you deserve a life of love, joy, peace and freedom
- you are so effin beautiful it’s crazy
- you are enough and no one is better than you
- you have something someone else wants or admires in you
- people smile when they think of you
“Mirror mirror on the wall…”…”Yes Iva, you are fucking amazing!!”
Peace and Love