Do you ever meet someone for the first time and get the icky vibe? Like some toxic personality traits are exposing themselves and you just want to walk away. Ya. But let’s not forget that we’re not perfect either right?
It’s hard to see toxic traits in yourself because we all like to think we’re nice people and that we’re likable. Such is not the case. Oh I’m sure you’re a lovely person but I’m just as sure that you probably have some toxic behaviors too.
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We all have toxic behaviors
I know. That sounds mean, but it’s true. Even if it’s not toxic to other people doesn’t mean that it’s not toxic. There are plenty of toxic behaviors that are harmful just to ourselves. Smoking, drinking in excess, gambling. Those are toxic things you do that are harmful to you, however, some of these are harmful to family too.
But I don’t need to tell you that and this isn’t an article where I get to lecture you and tell you to smarten up. Nope. I ain’t perfect either and I have toxic traits too.
I know. Shocking, right? (haha!!)
So let’s just get to the toxic personality traits so you can see if you have any of them and start working towards getting rid of them and improving your life!!
Click the image below, or you can click right here, if you’re ready to toss your toxic traits, stop letting people treat you like garbage, love yourself more, gain more respect and SO MUCH MORE!!
20 Toxic Personality Traits You Need to Dump Now
When we start taking little steps to change our toxic behaviours or any of the things on this toxic traits list, you will notice an instant improvement in your life. I’m not even kidding.
You’ll feel happier, have more inner peace, you’ll be more accepting of others, you’ll be more loving and compassionate. Ooph the list goes on and on!
Take one toxic trait, have a look at it, and figure out a way to dump it. Today. Like right now.
In absolutely no particular order of importance, here are 25 toxic personality traits that you should really dump, like right now.
Gossiping is for the weak. Next time you catch yourself talking about the lady next door or a coworker, stop yourself immediately. Change the subject. Do whatever. Don’t get caught up in gossiping either, meaning if you’re in a group of people and they start gossiping, either leave the circle or change the subject.
Just as toxic as gossiping. Pointing your fingers and judging someone else for however they live their life or the clothes they wear or whatever is just rude, immature and ignorant. None of us are perfect, remember that. And we all have stories that made us who we are today. Don’t judge someone’s story.
You might like this related article : 8 Reasons Why You Shouldn’t Judge People
I cringe. I used to whine all the time. Now I can’t stand to hear other people whine about things. The most ridiculous things most of the time too. Seriously. Shut up. You have it better than most of the world’s population. If you’re gonna whine, do it in private. No one needs to hear it.
Much like whining but worse. I don’t need to give you the definition of complaining. It’s probably one of the worst toxic behaviors in my opinion because, again, we complain about things that people would kill to have or see or do. Instead of complaining just be grateful instead. Turn that around and watch what happens almost instantly!
Just don’t. Not even the little white ones. Lies always have a way of coming back to bite you in the butt. Tell the truth the first time and you won’t have to scramble later stuttering over your words, or I should say your lies, trying to remember what you said. Speak the truth always, no matter how much your voice quivers.
Jealousy really is an ugly toxic trait. And being jealous makes you ugly. There’s no need to be jealous of anyone ever because we are all beautiful, smart, talented and amazing in our own special way. Funny thing is we are usually jealous of someone over something ridiculous and they in turn are jealous of you over something ridiculous. It’s all ridiculous.
You might like this post on relationship paranoia : Relationship Paranoia-What Causes it and How to Fix It
You know who you are. Manipulative people know they are being manipulative. Stop it. It’s toxic and super harmful. When you do that to someone it cuts away at their self worth and self respect. Don’t do that to people. That’s not very nice. Stop being manipulative and just be honest and kind.
Comparing yourself to others
Really. Don’t do that. They aren’t better than you. Maybe they have more things than you do but that doesn’t mean they are happier or more successful than you are. Each and every one of us have something that someone else doesn’t. It doesn’t mean they are better or superior to you.
Ugh. Seriously it’s time to let go of the past and all the bad things people did to you. None of that matters anymore. Forgive them, release them and let them go. I think from this toxic traits list, holding grudges is one of the worst as it literally sucks the life out of you to stay angry at someone for such a long time.
Being close minded
I gotta be honest, close minded people annoy the poop outta me. But people are also afraid of what they don’t know and they don’t want to know or learn or open their minds to something different. These people also tend to be judgemental and gossipy. Don’t be one of these people.
Being a people pleaser
Yes this is a toxic trait but it’s one that’s toxic to you!! Many people pleasers try so hard to make everyone else happy they forget about themselves or don’t think they deserve good things. Start pleasing yourself more and let others take care of themselves. That’s how they grow. Not only that, people pleasers are the least respected type of people. You deserve good things and respect!!
Are you a negative Nancy all the time? Honestly, no one wants to be around someone who is negative all the time. I call these people time vampires. They whine, complain and have nothing good to say about anything or anyone. It’s soul sucking. Stop it please.
You might really like this video on how to stop being negative from my YouTube channel, Women Blazing Trails. Don’t forget to click subscribe while you’re there!
Yup that’s a toxic trait. Worrying is also a big fat waste of time too in case you haven’t figured that out yet. Most of the stuff we waste time worrying about never ever happens. We panic for nothing. We stress out for nothing. Do yourself a favour, have more faith and just let things be.
Choosing to stay silent instead of using your voice to speak out against something that is wrong or something you don’t like or goes against your morals and values is just wrong. Speak out and tell the other person or people NO. Find and use your voice so people learn how to respect you more and they’ll learn to not cross your boundary lines. Speak up and speak out!
You’re not. You never will be. Nothing is perfect and no one cares. That’s the cold hard truth. You need to just be happy with who you are, what you’ve accomplished, how much more you can do and enjoy life without trying to manipulate it to perfectionism. It’ll never be perfect. I promise.
Whether it be controlling people or trying to control the outcome of something, please dump this horribly toxic personality trait. This one is also up there on the list of the worst. The only thing you should be controlling is yourself, your emotions, your feelings and your life. Not anyone else’s or anything else. The more you control, the more disappointed you will be and the less happy you will be. See that vicious cycle?
Really? Grow up. That’s school yard trash. And besides, who the #$@% do you think you are that you can treat someone so cruelly. Not to mention that bullying is one of the most damaging things you can do to someone. So many people commit suicide over bullying, so please, if you’re a bully, just stop. Get help and find out why you’re like that and fix it. Now.
The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) states that almost 45,000 deaths occur from suicide each year. There are about 100 non-fatal suicide attempts to every 1 suicide. A little over 14% of students in high school consider suicide and approximately 7% of them attempt suicide. Students that are bullied are around 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims.
Holding on to the past
Please. Let it go. All the hurt, all the anger, all the pain, and yes the grudges. Holding on to the past serves you no good whatsoever and will keep you chained to the misery of the past. Don’t you want to move forward in life and be happy? Of course you do. The first step to happiness is letting go of sadness from yesterday. Trust me on that one.
Like thinking you’re better than everyone else, or being driven by the fact that you have more or are smarter or better looking than everyone else. When we come from a place of ego we don’t see the bigger picture which is, we are all good at something, we are all unique and we are all awesome.
And, we’re all here for the same thing, live love and then die. Check your ego at the door.
Lose your temper
Please seek help for this. If you have anger issues, you have to remember your anger and your words hurt more people than you know. Not to mention it is very detrimental to your overall health (think – high blood pressure/stroke/heart attack/headaches/etc). There are so many resources available to help with your anger.
If you are ready to talk to someone about this please check out the amazing people over at online-therapy.com.
Toxic traits in a woman
So many of the things on this toxic traits list can apply to everybody but I think there are one or two that relate to women only.
Toxic traits in a woman like jealousy and gossiping make you ugly, no matter how beautiful you think you are. Those are two of the ones most women have and girl, it’s time to dump them. I think that as far as toxic personality traits goes, if you get rid of these two you’ve won a big battle!!
Toxic personality traits will keep you from happiness
If you are striving to be happy and live a life of joy, inner peace, freedom, abundance and love (and so much more) it’s def time to dump any and all of the toxic personality traits on this list that you might have. For real. Dump them and watch your life improve by a million percent!
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