Do you ever wonder why some people gravitate towards you and others seem to repel? You’re left scratching your head wondering what the hell you did wrong. Could I possibly be intimidating people? Yup. You sure can be. But what did you do? What did you miss?
What the hell did I say wrong?
Well, in all honesty, and in my opinion, I think what you said is only about 50% of the problem. The remaining issues lie in these 4 things. If you are doing any of them, well, cut it out, er or wait…Keep it up!
4 Reasons you are intimidating to others
#1. Standing Tall
You walk around with your head held high but not like a stuck up bitch held high more like a super self confidence high. Your shoulders are back, your walk is one of complete pride and self confidence. People will judge you and snub their nose at you but they do this in fear. Some people are really afraid and intimidated by super self confident people. You also have no problem standing up for what you believe in. You won’t back down and agree with everyone just to be part of the crowd. Nope, you’re no follower.
#2. Talk with assuredness
Aka, confidence (I know, there’s that word again). You look directly in their eyes while speak to them and you know exactly what you’re talking about. You have a unique assertiveness in your tone and your demeanor. You can hold up your end of a good conversation. An outsider looking in will be afraid of you. They may even think you are too smart for them. Yup.
#3. You are yourself
You dress the way you want, wear your hair the way you want, do things how you want and pretty much are just a free spirited free bird. Funny thing is, that actually scares people. I know I don’t get it either. When we live outside of the box or the “norm” people will stare and point fingers and maybe even gasp. Let ’em. Many of us are afraid of what we don’t understand and we are also slightly afraid, or should I say borderline jealous, of people who don’t conform. Oh how we’d all like to be like them.
#4. You are successful
Not everyone is going to admire you for that. Not everyone is going to think you’re awesome because of that. There are going to be the few select that will snub you because they feel inferior or jealous (ha! there’s that word again) and quite honestly, will be afraid of you. Successful people, still to this day, kinda freak me out. Even I feel a little intimidated by the super successful person. I still think they must be smarter than me and *how can I carry on a conversation with them and what on earth would I talk about with this person and oh dear I better just stay away*. Yup. I still think like that at times.
Now of course, if you know me, you will know that I am going to tell you to NOT stop doing any of these things just because you are scaring people away. By all means, keep being the badass muthafucka that you are. Keep being you. You did whatever it took to get you to where you are now. Kudos!
And then of course, you will find your tribe. You will. The right people, your tribe people, will love you and appreciate you for you. They won’t be scared of you at all. You’ll just be one of them. A tribe peep. Stay close to them.
Those are the ones who count.
“Wait, don’t run away, I’m a fun person, honest I am.”
Peace and Love