Last Updated on 2 years by Iva Ursano
I’m no stranger to heartache. I love full on, no holds barred. When I love, I love hard core. Now with that said, this mushy heart of mine gets broken often. I could probably write a book about dealing with heartbreak ( I should do that).
I find that after each heartbreak I always manage to pick up a few more life lessons. Most importantly, I learned that I still have lots to learn.
I love love so much that I just don’t even care about the impending doom to follow. I don’t view love as something that I give and hope it lasts forever. Nope.
I view love as something that speaks loudly from my heart and no matter what happens while I’m loving, I’m enjoying the feeling with every ounce of me.
I love the feeling of love and being in love so I’ll handle the hurt that comes afterwards. It ain’t fun, but for me, it was all worth it.
Dealing with heartbreak can be a challenge
Now with all that said, I’m not gonna lie and tell you that the doom doesn’t hurt my heart. It hurts a whole heck of a lot. Can’t tell you that I enjoy it either, I know it’s coming. Sometimes it hurts like hell, sometimes the blow is soft.
Make no mistake though, it hurts.
So if I know pain is inevitable, why do I keep doing it then? Even though dealing with heartbreak is horrible, why do I keep putting myself through that?
Why don’t I learn how to guard my heart like most people do?
Put it in a cage and protect it until I’m certain that “this” guy is Mr. Right (or maybe even Mr. Notsobad). Is it because I love heartache so much I look forward to the next one? You know, like a self torture kind of thing.
Nope. Not at all. It’s because caging my heart doesn’t interest me. That’s not what hearts are for. They are for loving.
So why do I keep at it?
It’s all the things I learn about myself after each heartbreak. I learn and I grow and then I think I’m more prepared for the next time it happens. Each person and each love that comes into our lives is there to teach us things.
Blessings and/or lessons. Some of mine have been blessings, most have been lessons. But that’s how I grow and learn about me. I wouldn’t have it any other way to be honest
5 Things You’ll Learn Dealing With Heartbreak
Now keep in mind, these are the things that I’ve learned but I wanted to pass the lessons onto you. I think we can all learn and grow from each other.
If you learned a valuable lesson while dealing with heartbreak, please drop it down below in the comments if you feel comfortable doing so!
I love feeling love
No matter how much my heart hurts or how long the heartache lasts, nothing compares to the feelings of love I had for this person at the moment.
Love, to me, is absolutely the most beautiful feeling in the world. I would not replace that or forfeit it simply because I’ve had my heart broken.
Not a chance.
I’ve learned that love is the #1 energy for me that fuels me and makes me happy. I’ll never stop doing that.
I need to feel it back
As much as I love love and love giving it, I realize that I really do need to feel it back. Maybe not 100% in return but I have to know that the love is there.
I know what it’s like to feel love but not really get anything back in return. It leaves a little hole in my heart and makes me sad.
So when I’m with someone, I need to know or feel that they love me too. It’s just how I’m wired. If I don’t feel it or they don’t know how to show it. it’s too hard for me to handle and I end up feeling sad and empty.
My boundaries are weak
Independent of the fact that I pride myself in standing tall and confident in who I am and how far I’ve come in my life, I still struggle with boundaries (don’t judge).
I want love so bad sometimes that I let those boundary lines slip. Time and time again. Every time I tell myself that that is not going to happen again but it always does.
I still have lots of work to do on my boundary lines. I feel this is something that we will always have tested, our boundary lines. You might like this mini eBook I wrote recently about How to Form Boundary Lines.
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Don’t lose yourself girl
Is it just me or does this happen to you sometimes too? We forget who we are and what we’re all about and we lose a little part of our identity. This happened only on a very small scale this time, but it still happened nonetheless.
So often we give up the things we love and want to do because of the person we love. We lose ourselves and only want to please them so we’ll do things to make them happy totally forgetting our own happiness.
Don’t do that. Your happiness is JUST as important, if not even more so.
Love myself a little more
Learn to love yourself a little more. Every love teaches me a bit more about myself and also shows me how to love myself a little more.
I hold on to the love I just had, hold the fond memories close and love the person I have emerged as after it. I am stronger, wiser and maybe even tad smarter. I love the woman I am growing into.
Each heartache shows me a few more things about myself and I cherish it all.
Moving on after heartbreak
There isn’t one single love I regret. Each one taught me so much about love and about myself. Some lessons were tough and took a long time to heal from but regardless, moving on after heartbreak is where you grow.
I love love, and I will continue to love full tilt, balls to the walls, no holds barred because I think it is the most beautiful energy in the world and I will never stop doing it.
Don’t give up on love and don’t cage your heart. Listen to your heart and let it do its job.
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