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5 Struggles in Life A Strong Woman Has to Face Alone

Last Updated on 3 years by Iva Ursano

I love being the strong woman that I am today. I hold my head up high, I’m pretty proud of how far I’ve come, my level of self confidence has reached a ridiculous all-time high. Yup, life is pretty sweet being a strong woman. But….there are definitely some struggles in life as a strong woman.

It’s not always fireworks and victory.

People see what’s on the outside. They are amazed at how resilient I am (though some days I still amaze myself with that one), they cheer me on and sing songs of praise to me about how wonderful I am.

Ya, but some days, I just don’t feel so wonderful. The struggle is real.

Inside I am scared, alone, and tired.

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What are some struggles in life?

We all have different struggles in life. Some of us struggle with finding a meaningful job they love while others may have a great job but struggle with being able to attract a decent partner.

Some more common struggles in life are:

  • finding happiness
  • eating healthy
  • losing weight
  • handling stress or anxiety
  • quitting addictions
  • finding a good job,
  • and many more.

We have to remember we all process things so differently. What one person calls chaos, another person calls normal. Some don’t struggle with their weight but struggle more so with eating healthier.

And many of us struggle with dealing with the demons from our past. You can see, there are many struggles in life that we all have to deal with. But the strong single woman? Well we have some pretty unique struggles that I want to share with you today.

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What are the characteristics of a strong woman anyway?

People often think that a strong woman is powerful, persuasive, and maybe even domineering. That’s partially true, maybe. That’s a super confident woman in my opinion.

The characteristics of a strong woman, I think, are these:

  • she’s confident
  • she holds her head up high despite going through hard times
  • she smiles on the outside regardless of the pain she feels inside
  • she’s not afraid to step out of her comfort zone to get s**t done
  • she stands up for others
  • she builds others up
  • she knows things will work out, no matter what

A strong woman will walk away from things that don’t serve her. She will walk away from drama and negativity. She will walk away from toxic people and gossip.

She is confident in her values and boundary lines.

These are just a few traits I think a strong woman has. Can you add to that list?

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We still have to face struggles in life

Regardless of the fact that we are strong women, there are still some struggles in life we have to face that maybe people just don’t realize.

We’re not superhuman. We still have feelings and difficulties. We still have challenges and hurdles we need to overcome. We’re not indestructible.

We just know how to bounce back and land on our feet again, with a smile, and our head held high.

So I’m gonna share some of the struggles in life I’ve had to face on my own as a strong woman, though I’m sure many of you have a list of your own struggles. I’d love to hear them! Drop them in the comments below.

5 Struggles in life the strong woman must face alone

In no particular order of importance and remember these are the struggles in life I have faced as a strong woman so yours will either be the same or definitely different. Let us know in the comments below what struggles you have faced as a strong woman.

1. Having to do the scary stuff alone

Sometimes I have to tackle really scary sh*t alone. Like when I packed my stuff and moved to Guatemala on a one-way ticket alone. I was terrified and wished I had someone to help with all the planning and decisions. At times I doubt my own decisions and don’t have much faith or trust in them.

But I did it and survived.

There were many days I wish I had someone to hold my hand or rub my back gently and tell me everything was going to be ok. There were days I SO longed to have a person like that.

But I didn’t. The strong woman that I am, went it alone.

And in all honesty, it was kinda lonely being that ballsy and strong, alone. There were moments when I hated it. I just wanted to curl up in a ball in the corner of the room and make the world go away.

But I didn’t.

So, ya, I did that. I’m super proud of myself and still pat myself on the back some days for that, but it wasn’t easy, at all.

Sometimes a strong woman must do scary things alone. She secretly sometimes wishes she had someone by her side to help her, cheer her on, or encourage her. But she doesn’t. She takes a big deep breath and leaps. Alone.

2. Having to resist temptation when you really don’t want to

Like that time I met that really cute boy who I started having such a huge crush on. Everything about him screamed “run away now”, and I didn’t until one day I had to dig deep and remember who I was, where I’ve been, what my triggers are, and everything I had to do to work so hard to get to where I am today.

When you’ve been alone for so long all you want is to love and be loved. Be appreciated for who you are and have attention and affection. We all have these feelings, I’m sure of it.

What about that time….?

That time I had to stand strong and stand up for what I believed in and remember what I wouldn’t put up with ever again. I had to be strong even though every aching part of my body wanted that cute boy. Every part of my body that longed to be touched and loved and held and shown admiration and love to.

I had to stay true to who I was and turn away from the cute boy.

I had to be strong. And that wasn’t easy. At all (seriously it’s hard to resist a cute boy!).

Just because we are strong women doesn’t mean we aren’t tempted by things. We know how to say no to them, even though we really really want them. We know the consequences just aren’t worth it.

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3. I don’t have all the answers

When everyone just thinks you got everything all figured out. I have a newsflash for you. I don’t. Hardly ever to be honest. I don’t have all the answers. No one does.

People think because we’re confident and mentally strong that we have the answers to problems, issues, situations and so much more.

Dude. We’re still trying to figure out some stuff on our own. Life is trial and error. For everyone. Try this…oops. Try that instead…ok that seemed to work.

Please don’t come to me with all your life problems and think I have all the solutions. I promise I don’t. I can’t fix all your problems. I’m still working on some of my own.

I’m just trying to navigate life the best way I know how. Just like you.

4. I’m not heartless, trust me on that

For some reason unbeknownst to me, people think that if you are a strong confident woman that you are ruthless, cold, and heartless. UGH.

That couldn’t be further from the truth.

I’m the most sensitive person you will ever meet, probably, and have a heart of gold and wouldn’t hurt a fly (ok well it depends on how many legs it has and how ugly it is). I’m not heartless or ruthless.

I’ve been through a lot, I’ve grown through a lot and I’ve survived a lot. If anything at all, it makes me more empathetic to people and their feelings.

I promise I’m not heartless at all. Come hang out with me and you’ll see :)

5. When everyone thinks you’re fine

No one asks if you’re ok. Everyone thinks you are such a strong woman that your life is great and you can handle whatever crap life throws at you and you don’t have to ask for help because you’re kinda like superwoman.

Fact of the matter is, you’re not. You sometimes secretly desperately wish someone would comfort you, hold you, take care of things for you. Be there for you. It’s tiring and exhausting to do things on your own all the time and…

…truth be told, sometimes you just wanna tap out. Just because we’re strong doesn’t necessarily mean we’re invincible or don’t need help. Sometimes we do. Here’s the catch though, we don’t like to ask for help. Because…well, we’re strong right?

If we ask for help then people think we’re weak and heaven forbid that should happen.

It’s a tough place to be.

But no one checks on you. It’s kinda sad, to be honest.

Are you practicing self-care?

Oftentimes a strong woman will forget to take care of herself. There are still many women I know who are super strong and amazing who put other people’s needs before their own and while this is admirable, I wouldn’t always recommend doing this.

We must take care of ourselves first. We are #1. No matter what. And it’s not selfish, it’s necessary.

What are your struggles in life as a strong woman?

So, you see, for me, being strong isn’t always that easy or fun. Rewarding, in the long run, yes, but at the very moment, I need to be strong, not so much fun and super effin hard. But I’ll tell you, I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Even though some days, I still wish I could wave a magic wand and have someone else take care of things for me.

What are some of the struggles in life you have to deal with as a strong woman? Share them below.

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  1. I Iva, what an article. Its like reading my own feelings, experiences, desires and wants written by someone else. My story unfolds right in front of me. Yap, its lonely out there but at the end, you’ll find yourself strong, fighting and standing.

    Its a scene that keeps repeating.

    Yeah, how I wish, I will have that someone, who will be there, just to comfort you, assures and simply put your head on his chest and let the moment slips away. Wishful thinking.

    1. Hey Jem glad you liked the blog and you’re right, wishful thinking. But I think if we keep wishing then maybe one day we will get that chest to lay our heads on :)

      much love

    2. Mind Blown! U got this. U will find ur comfy chest, and It will come with arms to hold u and kisses that make u forget the world for a minute. :

  2. Happy to hear you’ve grown to be a strong woman you are today. Yes it must get lonely at times but you’re resilient and that’s what matters. And it’s quite possible the right partner will come your way. And when that happens you’ll definitely be ready for it.

  3. I can totally relate to this. Sometimes I feel like because we’re strong women people expect us to be invincible. Everyone has moments of vulnerability and loneliness. It just comes with the territory.

    1. Thank You so much.
      Thank you for expressing what i could not.

  4. I can’t think of anyone who hasn’t felt this way at some point, and well, I’m with you there right now! I had some really tough choices over the past few years, including leaving toxic relationships and now I haven’t dated in nearly 3 and a half years! It is lonely at times but I know being strong and independent thus far is right for me but yeah… I’m ready to meet a new romantic partner too. I hope we both find what we are looking for soon and until then, keep being a badass.

  5. I understand what you mean… I struggle with loneliness all the time and it’s painful. Thank you for writing this. May God bless you and grant you ease… Amen.

    1. I have been having to be strong thru alot of things in my life . And make choices that were hard .Been thru divorce . And remarring. the same man only to find out again it didnt work .But in that thru the things that led to a split up again were very real and I had to be strong. For me . I cant seem to find the person I want and need . And I felt that I cant be dealing with the way I felt when I saw the reasons I had to relize I can foegive But not forget. the things that left me very hurt . so I am seperated and ready to divorce . And I had to be strong .And still trying to be strong . And now knowing It wont ever work .I know I just want to be loved in a special way .And somtimes I feel like I am older now .and It seems I am not young enough or I dont feel strong enough to be alone .And I want. So much to be that speacial person is that to much .It seems I am not sure But It is hard to stay strong alone .

      1. It is hard to stay strong alone Kayla, you’re right, but it’s not impossible. I think we all want that special person xo. Thank you for reading and sharing your feelings. xo

  6. I love the experiences that you told in this post, some were similar to my own. Being strong isn’t so easy but we keep fighting and pushing through. Happy international women’s day x

  7. this reminds me of my sister – she has been through a lot of unnecessary hardships and now she is older and wants a a partner but is feeling like she has a lot of baggage on top of how much her job entails. thank you for sharing your story. I am glad you are focusing on yourself right now. My sister is trying to do the same

    1. I wish your sister well and hope one day she finds what she deserves xoxoxo :)

  8. This is such a good post, and being a strong woman does have its good and bad points. I didn’t even think of loneliness, but that makes sense.

  9. As women, the experiences we have shape us.
    It’s good to be courageous.
    We sometimes feel alone and also have issues too but we just need to trust in God in all these things

    1. Cheers Enele!! Thanx for your comment xoxoxo

  10. I fonud myself so much in this ? i feel you girl but we know what kind od man we deserve and someone like it will come along when the time is right. Someone who wol match our strength. Keep doing you ❤️

  11. Absolutely love this!! It’s so very true. No one asks how we are, they just assume we’re ok. Love the blog lady!

  12. Amazing article !!
    Thank you for sharing and showing your personal journey!
    It’s my personal journey as well!!
    Glad to know I’m not alone!!

  13. This post spoke to me at every level. You took the words out of my mouth and put them in this post. On my drive into work I couldn’t suspend the tears any longer. Day after day I feel like I am hit with another challenge. The year started off losing my job, followed by the diagnosis of my mother with cancer, my little brother with terminal cancer, the illness of my father, a separation, and last night I was up until 3am caring for my child and cleaning my entire house because of something contagious he contracted from school. I just started a new job and cannot take time off to manage everything. How does one do it alone? And try to remain positive that it will get better, when at every turn there is no relief. Inside I feel like I am crumbling.

    1. I’m sorry you are going through all this alone. I think you should try to reach out to support groups for help or friends? You can email me anytime if you like xoxo Stay strong babe!

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